Is anyone here not ugly, but also not handsome, in their 20's, but is getting nothing? no gf, not even the occasional hook-up? It really saddens me that these are probably the best years of my life, and at my most attractive that i will ever be, but I still dont get anywhere. How do you cope with this anon? I continue my education and other goals in life, but it just something that really bothers me. Rage with me.
I occasionally get gay sex on craigslist, but my real life ambition is to have a proper relationship with a woman who I love.
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I am in the same boat. I am 21 and a junior in college and I haven't even kissed a girl. It seriously affects my motivation to do my school work. What do I have to look forward to?
Yep OP, but just got a date, for the first time in 3 years, hope it goes well.
Well at least as you get older women start caring about more qualities than looks. Stability and relationsh*ts as well.
I occasionally get gay sex on craigslist, but my real life ambition is to have a proper relationship with a woman who I love.
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That's pig disgusting, you gonna get AIDS.
I feel the same way. In fact, I am struggling with these issues.
*raises hand*
It is probably because of my general social apathy. To get a girlfriend I need to get friends who are girls, to get those I need to talk to people, to do that I need to identify things that other people might plausibly be interested in and then say stuff about them and most of the time I can't be bothered.
last year i went nearly a year with no sex. and only hooked up with a girl randomly two or 3 times, coming to nothing. then i went back to my old f**kbuddy after abortively sexing a 21 year old virgin. so boo hoo and stuff i serpose.
Yeah, except I would say I'm pretty handsome. I just either come off as a jerk or not very interesting, I guess. When girls do hit on me, I'm kinda standoffish for whatever reason. I had sex with six girls in high school, so far only 2 in college... and that was freshmen year. Senior now -.-
post a pic, you might not think you're ugly when you actually are.
My only flaw (physically) is that I'm fat.
I've been called ugly before (mainly by anon), but I've also had two girlfriends that said they found me very attractive.
I have very low self-confidence, so I have a hard time taking compliments anyways.
Sometime I'll look in the mirror and thing, "I'm not so bad." But then I'll be walking around campus and see so many guys that are more attractive, in better shape, dress better, are more outgoing, and have better personalities than me. So after that, I'll just think, "Why would any girl want to get with me when she has so many better options to chose from?"
I've been called ugly before (mainly by anon), but I've also had two girlfriends that said they found me very attractive.
I have very low self-confidence, so I have a hard time taking compliments anyways.
Sometime I'll look in the mirror and thing, "I'm not so bad." But then I'll be walking around campus and see so many guys that are more attractive, in better shape, dress better, are more outgoing, and have better personalities than me. So after that, I'll just think, "Why would any girl want to get with me when she has so many better options to chose from?"
I'm pretty sure this is what f**ked me up; my self-confidence anyway. It pretty much all boils down to college.
20, average-handsome. Confidence grown in the military, not at all shy. Just can't seem to be able to approach people and women. I don't mind and, heck, my life is good. I thoroughly enjoy it. Sometimes I just feel like I'm missing on things. But there's always time, right?
I'm pretty average looks wise and I don't get any tail. I'm okay with this though.
I have been called really cute and at the worst average by anons but I have never even held a girls hand. Feels bad, man.
The problem is you're putting way too much value on hooking-up. Once you stop over-valuing it, you can stop worrying about it.
Is anyone here not ugly, but also not handsome, in their 20's, but is getting nothing? no gf, not even the occasional hook-up? It really saddens me that these are probably the best years of my life, and at my most attractive that i will ever be, but I still dont get anywhere. How do you cope with this anon? I continue my education and other goals in life, but it just something that really bothers me. Rage with me.
I'm on the same boat as you, I understand your pain.
Hooking up is like getting hired
You will get disappointed many many times before you succeed
*raises hand*
It is probably because of my general social apathy. To get a girlfriend I need to get friends who are girls, to get those I need to talk to people, to do that I need to identify things that other people might plausibly be interested in and then say stuff about them and most of the time I can't be bothered.
>social apathy
I'm going to steal that, write it down and every single time somebody asks me why I don't have a girlfriend or more than one or two friends, I'll say social apathy.
Statistically speaking, a man's twenties are likely to be the most unhappy part of his life. They are also when he is most likely to be single.
Change that to attractive and 19 going on 20 (in August) and that is me.
I've been called ugly before (mainly by anon), but I've also had two girlfriends that said they found me very attractive.
I have very low self-confidence, so I have a hard time taking compliments anyways.
Sometime I'll look in the mirror and thing, "I'm not so bad." But then I'll be walking around campus and see so many guys that are more attractive, in better shape, dress better, are more outgoing, and have better personalities than me. So after that, I'll just think, "Why would any girl want to get with me when she has so many better options to chose from?"
Anon says weird things in rate threads.
Statistically speaking, a man's twenties are likely to be the most unhappy part of his life. They are also when he is most likely to be single.
cite sources, or gtfo
I am a 26 year old virgin. Every year that I remain a virgin decreases the chance I will lose my virginity. In some ways, I have given up. I know that I will die a virgin.
cite sources, or gtfo
I don't f**king remember. l2google.
I am a 26 year old virgin. Every year that I remain a virgin decreases the chance I will lose my virginity. In some ways, I have given up. I know that I will die a virgin.
Pay for a night and get it off your mind. You buy yourself some peace. None of your troubles will magically fix after, but at least you can stop mulling over it.
im pretty attractive, in my 20s, not a virgin...
havent gotten any action in more than a year...maybe 2.
It comes down to the fact that i just dont care. if an attractive, geniune, smart girl just happened to enter my life, that would be ok. But im not going to force an affectation and pick up girls. I dont work that way, as i strive to be authentic in every aspect of life. I also believe the entire act of "seeking" a bf/gf is ridiculous. Human relationships dont develop properly in that atmosphere.
Ok, listen up. It's true, it will not fix all of my problems, heck, a relationship might even worsen them. The casual hook-up might even leave me empty and dissatisfied. But I would be enjoying sex, the youthfulness of my body, a great experience (perhaps), and I wouldn't feel like Im missing out.
Pay for a night and get it off your mind. You buy yourself some peace. None of your troubles will magically fix after, but at least you can stop mulling over it.
I have thought about that but I heard you have to jump through lots of hoops to get a prostitute (work place verifications, callbacks, etc.)
Also, I suffer from premature ejaculation so really, what could would sex do me?
The prositute would probably laugh at me.
*raises hand*
It is probably because of my general social apathy. To get a girlfriend I need to get friends who are girls, to get those I need to talk to people, to do that I need to identify things that other people might plausibly be interested in and then say stuff about them and most of the time I can't be bothered.
>social apathy
stopped reading there
25 here and I feel your pain.
School is over. Friends have left town. Work is full of old people.
I live in a suburban sprawl hell where the only places to go are bars/liquor stores and large box stores like Target and grocery chains. There are even less options in winter. The catch is everything is ten miles away from each other, so if you go to bar, you can't drink lest you get caught. I'm not about to prowl Target either.
I have lots of outdoor activities, but rarely cross another human being while doing them.
I don't know where the hell to meet people. It's frustrating.
Ok, listen up. It's true, it will not fix all of my problems, heck, a relationship might even worsen them. The casual hook-up might even leave me empty and dissatisfied. But I would be enjoying sex, the youthfulness of my body, a great experience (perhaps), and I wouldn't feel like Im missing out.
>a relationship might even worsen them
It did for me. She was the first girl I'd even been in love with, the second girl I'd ever kissed, and I seriously thought that I could spend the rest of my life with her. When she left me, I became more depressed than I'd ever been before, and I was diagnosed with clinical depression at 16.
I wish I'd never met her. I'd rather go back to wondering what it was like instead of feeling this greater pain she caused me.
I have thought about that but I heard you have to jump through lots of hoops to get a prostitute (work place verifications, callbacks, etc.)
Also, I suffer from premature ejaculation so really, what could would sex do me?
The prositute would probably laugh at me.
Essentially, that's what you pay them for not to do.
I have thought about that but I heard you have to jump through lots of hoops to get a prostitute (work place verifications, callbacks, etc.)
Also, I suffer from premature ejaculation so really, what could would sex do me?
The prositute would probably laugh at me.
Most of them are pretty understanding and open, actually. Just discuss these things with them beforehand if possible. And my forays into the world of paid sex are yet to come bite me in my ass.
>sits on web all day
>wonders why he doesnt have a girlfriend
you need to go outside dude, they dont come to you
I'm sometimes bothered, but I really just want companionship rather than getting my rocks off.
I tell myself that most people get married, and that since I'm tall and at one of the best unis in the world I'll probably get a good job and become wealthy, so I'll be desirable as a provider later in life when women start caring about how good a father you could be.
That's how I deal with it.
I'm in that boat. I haven't even gotten any messages on OkCupid, for chrissakes.
I don't think of myself as ugly, but maybe I am, though. But even if I am, I'm not deformed-ugly.
>sits on web all day
>wonders why he doesnt have a girlfriend
you need to go outside dude, they dont come to you
It's true bro, but this.
>sits on web all day
>wonders why he doesnt have a girlfriend
you need to go outside dude, they dont come to you
I have an exciting and busy social life by myself. Don't judge me!
in the same boat as OP, except I guess I don't really try to apply myself. I run miles and lift weights 4-5 times per week, but other than that it's games and web.
I'm in that boat. I haven't even gotten any messages on OkCupid, for chrissakes.
I don't think of myself as ugly, but maybe I am, though. But even if I am, I'm not deformed-ugly.
OKC isn't taken seriously by anyone these days.
I'm in that boat. I haven't even gotten any messages on OkCupid, for chrissakes.
I don't think of myself as ugly, but maybe I am, though. But even if I am, I'm not deformed-ugly.
Internet dating might have been worthwhile at some point but today it exists only as a means to extract money from lonely men.
The people who run the dating websites put up profiles of fake women to lure in lonely men.
OKC isn't taken seriously by anyone these days.
Yeah, but I expected at least a message from the many hideous fat girls.
Maybe I need to grow a pair and actually message someone myself. For what it's worth, I have an 80% match with the girl that I joined the site for...
Yeah, but I expected at least a message from the many hideous fat girls.
Maybe I need to grow a pair and actually message someone myself. For what it's worth, I have an 80% match with the girl that I joined the site for...
If you actually received a message then their scams would be undone
You just have to stop being ugly and message other people.
Well yeah, I never do anything besides routine, therefore I'm not interesting, and I can't fake I am interesting so I can't hold a conversation for long. Rarely meet new people, much less girls, god knows none interested in me.
Sh*t's going to be planetary alignment-like if this formula ever makes me succeed, but I'm not a depressive fa**ot and I have my needs covered so I can't complain.
Yeah, I feel the same way as OP (with the caveat that I really stopped caring so much about my looks. Going to the gym and having cool hair is nice, but it doesn't mean anything if you aren't comfortable with yourself to begin with).
My thing is that I never really got the whole dating thing down. All my relationships so far were just these obvious, I-know-she's-totally-into-me-so-let's-go-to-a-corner-at-the-bar-and-make-out-and-the-relationship-wi
ll-start-there scenarios. (plus I'm not too good with subtle signals lol)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2009_Bridgeville_gym_shooting
Here's how you'll end up 20 years from now.
Yeah, but I expected at least a message from the many hideous fat girls.
Maybe I need to grow a pair and actually message someone myself. For what it's worth, I have an 80% match with the girl that I joined the site for...
I gritted my teeth and wrote to a girl. Charmed her, we fell in love, girlfriend of two years. She became crazy and clingy and it ended. A success story from me to you. Give it a shot.
Question for you anons:
Why do you guys simply accept your situations and not try to change them? Or are you trying but getting no results? If you are trying with no results, why not try to find the real cause of your problem instead of following whatever blind adviceice you find here?
It seems as if a lot of you would be happier and in a better position if you were more proactive about your problems. (myself included)
Perhaps some of you actually enjoy the misery?
Is anyone here not ugly, but also not handsome, in their 20's, but is getting nothing? no gf, not even the occasional hook-up? It really saddens me that these are probably the best years of my life, and at my most attractive that i will ever be, but I still dont get anywhere. How do you cope with this anon? I continue my education and other goals in life, but it just something that really bothers me. Rage with me.
dude, her bush is shaved like a maple leaf. WIN!
Did that JB shave her f**king pubes into a marijuana leaf or am I seeing sh*t
Pretty sure it is. Hmm... to be absolutely certain, in the interests of science of course, I shall examine that area of the image closer. A lot closer. And take notes with my penis.
dude, her bush is shaved like a maple leaf. WIN!
Not terribly bright, are you?
Question for you anons:
Why do you guys simply accept your situations and not try to change them? Or are you trying but getting no results? If you are trying with no results, why not try to find the real cause of your problem instead of following whatever blind adviceice you find here?
It seems as if a lot of you would be happier and in a better position if you were more proactive about your problems. (myself included)
Perhaps some of you actually enjoy the misery?
>Why do you guys simply accept your situations
and not try to change them?
I tried to change my situation alright but by the time I started I was beyond help.
Question for you anons:
Why do you guys simply accept your situations and not try to change them? Or are you trying but getting no results? If you are trying with no results, why not try to find the real cause of your problem instead of following whatever blind adviceice you find here?
It seems as if a lot of you would be happier and in a better position if you were more proactive about your problems. (myself included)
Perhaps some of you actually enjoy the misery?
Most of us wouldn't know where to begin.
It's obvious we don't have the natural charisma required to hook-up with random women.
Nothing comes naturally for us. We need help.
Not terribly bright, are you?
Don't be a dick.
Question for you anons:
Why do you guys simply accept your situations and not try to change them? Or are you trying but getting no results? If you are trying with no results, why not try to find the real cause of your problem instead of following whatever blind adviceice you find here?
It seems as if a lot of you would be happier and in a better position if you were more proactive about your problems. (myself included)
Perhaps some of you actually enjoy the misery?
I'm just too nervous to initiate anything, I guess. Though I did recently meet a girl I met on Anontalk in person, which is something I never would have done a few years ago, so that's a start, maybe.
>Why do you guys simply accept your situations
and not try to change them?
I tried to change my situation alright but by the time I started I was beyond help.
Too late how? Are you not in college? Late 20s? You can still go to a new country and start fresh there.
Too late how? Are you not in college? Late 20s? You can still go to a new country and start fresh there.
I am in my late 20s and recently returned to college. I've never been on a date, had a girlfriend, or kissed or touched a woman in my entire life. I am ugly, fat, and out of shape although I have been working on the fat and out of shape part these last couple of months.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2009_Bridgeville_gym_shooting
Here's how you'll end up 20 years from now.
Jesus Christ.
That's CWC's endgame.
...lsn't that everybody here?
Good looking, workout all the time and have a body /fit/ would admire, in university, but just lack the opportunity to meet women, and when I do, I don't find them appealing in the slightest.
I'm so desperate that i've started sleeping with my ex that cheated on me, but explained that nothing will come from it
Good looking, workout all the time and have a body /fit/ would admire, in university, but just lack the opportunity to meet women, and when I do, I don't find them appealing in the slightest.
I'm so desperate that i've started sleeping with my ex that cheated on me, but explained that nothing will come from it
SDFU at least you are getting pu**y
AMEN BRO
Cheers.
COMMON TREND UR ALL ON web
PIC RELATED: GIRL U COULD SLEEP WITH IF U GOT OUT MORE
COMMON TREND UR ALL ON web
PIC RELATED: GIRL U COULD SLEEP WITH IF U GOT OUT MORE
Good looking women make me mad and frustrated because I know the closest I could get to them is through a computer screen.
At least with average looking women I can imagine myself with them.
COMMON TREND UR ALL ON web
PIC RELATED: GIRL U COULD SLEEP WITH IF U GOT OUT MORE
I go for walks around my campus every night and I'm fairly outgoing actually
I wear lots of black and am quite pale. You'd think being personable would cancel those out.....
SDFU at least you are getting pu**y
This is why people look down on virgins.
im pretty attractive, in my 20s, not a virgin...
havent gotten any action in more than a year...maybe 2.
It comes down to the fact that i just dont care. if an attractive, geniune, smart girl just happened to enter my life, that would be ok. But im not going to force an affectation and pick up girls. I dont work that way, as i strive to be authentic in every aspect of life. I also believe the entire act of "seeking" a bf/gf is ridiculous. Human relationships dont develop properly in that atmosphere.
I am like you anon.
Unfortunately seeing how society works at our age I have no hopes for meeting any girl before the age of 25 unless I put in the effort of "seeking" one out.
I'm probably about a 4, maybe a 5. Have a decent amount of friends, go out a lot, used to give a sh*t about sex, couldn't get any, gave up.
Surprisingly, I don't care. I really don't want a girlfriend anymore, too many horror stories from people I know, and the idea of opening up to someone emotionally now repulses me.
I'd take sex if it came along, mostly just to avoid that slightly awkward feeling when conversation with new people turns to sex; and I tell them I'm a virgin. Apart from that, I'm happy to fap away any sexual desires I get. Hell, when I see one of the many threads here that consist of people bawwwing about their lack of pu**y, I feel slight rage and want to tell them to shut the f**k up and do something else.
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