What kind of disorder do I have?
Sh*tty housemate disorder?
Human disorder. It occurs in 100% of humans. Bad news is, it will kill you. Good news, it won't take too long.
Sh*tty housemate disorder?
Mine make me rage every day. I've love to carve them both up, but I can't afford the rent on my own :(
Sh*tty housemate disorder?
It's not really their fault. They aren't actually loud. It's more that the house has thin walls, and I am a quiet person. They don't actually do anything wrong, yet their existence makes me furious. It's something like their presence in what I perceive to be my space sends me into a rage
Seriously, what do I have? It's like social anxiety, but at this point I just want to walk out in the hallway and act like a dick.
It's something like I only want people to exist when I give them permission to. Any other time, they are just disturbing my solitude.
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i think physical matter just rickrolled you.
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this is anonymous.
therefore, we're all sociopaths.
BUT I DONT CARE CUZ I'M A SOCIOPATH.
I think that's just irritability.
You'll either get over it or ragequit your house.
Simple, OP. You're a self centered dick as a byproduct of being a recluse. Engage in their lives while not assuming their bullsh*t into your worldview, play nice and get to know people while being yourself. Keep your ear to the tracks of humanity = you not losing your sh*t and maybe finding someone you can understand and who understands you.
I think that's just irritability.
You'll either get over it or ragequit your house.
I actually said something like this to my friend, like it was normal. We were in the gym and I was like "don't you hate the other people at the gym? it's like 'get out of my gym'" I think he thought I was crazy, because normal people don't think the gym belongs to them. I know it doesn't belong to me, but I still hate people for being where I am.
Ragequitting my house won't do it. I think I might snap and start killing random people, while justifying it to myself that they were in my space.
Simple, OP. You're a self centered dick as a byproduct of being a recluse. Engage in their lives while not assuming their bullsh*t into your worldview, play nice and get to know people while being yourself. Keep your ear to the tracks of humanity = you not losing your sh*t and maybe finding someone you can understand and who understands you.
lol, it's not like I don't have friends. My housemates, aren't among them, but I still have them. I just get furious when people encroach my space - either with their presence or their noise or their smell - when I don't want them to.
It's pretty childish, but I'm just curious as to what that condition is.
Seriously, what do I have? It's like social anxiety, but at this point I just want to walk out in the hallway and act like a dick.
It's something like I only want people to exist when I give them permission to. Any other time, they are just disturbing my solitude.
holy c**kballs batman!
i am the same way as you. i wish i could just live alone and have no one bother me.
would be nice if i knew what caused it so i didnt feel like this.
I live alone.
It gets lonely.
basement bro, get a basement and everything just flows from there.
you know what to do
burn them
burn them all
I live alone.
It gets lonely.
I used to live alone. That was okay, but it was lonely at times. Then I moved to a house. The people are cool and I made some good friends there. But still, they could disturb me whenever they wished, and that got super annoying. Then, a bunch of the people in that house moved out, and it was just me and two other people in this massive house. That was amazing, because I had a whole floor to myself. I never had to be bugged by anyone when I didn't want to be. Now, all I hear are footsteps all of the time and I think I might kill someone.
basement bro, get a basement and everything just flows from there.
That's actually not a bad idea. Where do you find basements?
I live alone.
It gets lonely.
Man I heard you talking about anarchy earlier and I knew it, I f**king knew it, the way you wrote just wreaked of the obtuse nature of some isolated f**khole
I used to live alone. That was okay, but it was lonely at times. Then I moved to a house. The people are cool and I made some good friends there. But still, they could disturb me whenever they wished, and that got super annoying. Then, a bunch of the people in that house moved out, and it was just me and two other people in this massive house. That was amazing, because I had a whole floor to myself. I never had to be bugged by anyone when I didn't want to be. Now, all I hear are footsteps all of the time and I think I might kill someone.
Sounds like you need a cigarette my friend.
basement bro, get a basement and everything just flows from there.
everything actually flows down into the basements
Sounds like you need a cigarette my friend.
I don't smoke cigs anymore. I could use a f**king bowl though.
everything actually flows down into the basements
it's just not clean, is what i mean
Man I heard you talking about anarchy earlier and I knew it, I f**king knew it, the way you wrote just wreaked of the obtuse nature of some isolated f**khole
DINGDINGDINGDING
I actually ended up here by accident, I missed the deadline to apply for rez. It sucked in the first 4 or 5 months but I've met a whole bunch of people into the music scene around Montreal and now it's not so bad. I don't know what a f**khole is, but I'm definitely not isolated.
I don't smoke cigs anymore. I could use a f**king bowl though.
How well do you know these people? Maybe you get to know them and it turns out they have super-interesting lives.
As a side question:
Do girls have any idea how annoying they are? Their high pitched voices are among the worst sounds I can imagine. When my male housemate comes back, I don't mind so much, although he can be a little loud. But when the girl come into the house, I just want to cut out their tongues.
Are those your actual roommates?
Quit your bitching and rape them.
If you're a girl, let a bunch of guy friends rape them.
HA.
HA HA HA.
OP, I have a dependent roommate who tries to use me as her therapist. HER THERAPIST. Not a friend, not someone for advice, but someone to validate her reality and make her feel better that she leeches onto narcissists because she feels she's incapable of performing well academically without them. If I try to tell her I'm busy, I not only deal with her victimized bullsh*t, I also deal with her overprotective father, who I have to deal with in regards to rent and sh*t.
I'm leaving once the lease is up, but F**K. It's understandable to detest those who invade what little sanctuary you have.
How well do you know these people? Maybe you get to know them and it turns out they have super-interesting lives.
I know the guy pretty well. He and I actually get on ok. We are pretty cool with one another. I know the girls a lot less, and I don't really think I want to. From what I do know about them, they aren't really my type of people. They are pretty straight-laced, I think.
HA.
HA HA HA.
OP, I have a dependent roommate who tries to use me as her therapist. HER THERAPIST. Not a friend, not someone for advice, but someone to validate her reality and make her feel better that she leeches onto narcissists because she feels she's incapable of performing well academically without them. If I try to tell her I'm busy, I not only deal with her victimized bullsh*t, I also deal with her overprotective father, who I have to deal with in regards to rent and sh*t.
I'm leaving once the lease is up, but F**K. It's understandable to detest those who invade what little sanctuary you have.
They aren't as bad as all that. Really I think the problem is me. I have some sort of mental disorder which makes me think I am entitled to them not existing except when I want them to. And when they don't, I get pissed off. They would never bug me about their personal lives though. We don't know each other that well. The guy might, but I don't really mind him as much, so it would probably bother me less.
I know the guy pretty well. He and I actually get on ok. We are pretty cool with one another. I know the girls a lot less, and I don't really think I want to. From what I do know about them, they aren't really my type of people. They are pretty straight-laced, I think.
Solution: throw a huge party, invite them, get them drunk bond, have good times from there on in.
OP buy some sound dampining headphones (you live at your comp anyway) and some earplugs
Solution: throw a huge party, invite them, get them drunk bond, have good times from there on in.
Our lives are surprisingly separate for being housemates. I think it would just be odd to even throw a party in this neighborhood, but odder to invite them to some party I'm throwing.
They aren't as bad as all that. Really I think the problem is me. I have some sort of mental disorder which makes me think I am entitled to them not existing except when I want them to. And when they don't, I get pissed off. They would never bug me about their personal lives though. We don't know each other that well. The guy might, but I don't really mind him as much, so it would probably bother me less.
No, that's just being a large child.
Seriously. It's slightly in line with personality disorders, but has more to do with you just wanting to get your way. You're not going to get a real diagnosis like that.
OP buy some sound dampining headphones (you live at your comp anyway) and some earplugs
So I have my headphones on like all of the time. But sometimes I'll be in the kitchen making food or something, and then they'll just come in and start doing something or talking (the two girls to each other) and it is all I can do to not scream "CAN'T YOU F**KING DO THIS ELSEWHERE? CHRIST!" I mean, if they are in the kitchen, I don't go in there - although I do want to tell them to get the f**k out because I want to use it.
you are ridiculously passive. my girlfriend acted exactly like you for a quarter and she was miserable every night. i kept pestering her about how ridiculous she was being, and she eventually wrote letters to the housemates (too passive to talk to them), and now they are friends again, just like they were before that quarter. being passive is just stupid.
No, that's just being a large child.
Seriously. It's slightly in line with personality disorders, but has more to do with you just wanting to get your way. You're not going to get a real diagnosis like that.
Surely there must be a reason for being a large child at my age.
No, that's just being a large child.
Seriously. It's slightly in line with personality disorders, but has more to do with you just wanting to get your way. You're not going to get a real diagnosis like that.
Also, it's not just that I want to have my way, but that their presence is frustrating to me and oppressive. I can't exist comfortably while they exist around me.
Surely there must be a reason for being a large child at my age.
Either you're a troll or you're not wanting to grow up.
If you want, go seek therapy and develop the impulse/gratification control you didn't during childhood.
People don't exist for the sake of fulfilling the role you've set for them.
Sorry bro, you don't have a personality disorder you can blame your sh*t on.
Why do you care if there's a proper term for it, why not just try to deal with it directly? Or is that the point.
Sounds to me like misplaced frustration. But I dunno.
Either you're a troll or you're not wanting to grow up.
If you want, go seek therapy and develop the impulse/gratification control you didn't during childhood.
People don't exist for the sake of fulfilling the role you've set for them.
Sorry bro, you don't have a personality disorder you can blame your sh*t on.
Everything has a source, man - even not wanting to grow up. Although, it is pretty clear that you are focusing on the situation, rather than what is going on internally within me - which is really what I'm asking about. Feeling that your space is being encroached resembles a sort of social anxiety. Fair enough that you don't approve of how I feel, but this thread isn't about you. Why do I feel oppressed by their presence? There is obviously a reason behind that, no?
Why do you care if there's a proper term for it, why not just try to deal with it directly? Or is that the point.
Sounds to me like misplaced frustration. But I dunno.
Because I'm curious as to why I feel this way.
And I'm not sure how I would deal directly with the fact that I can't stand the presence of other people when I am in what I consider at the time to be my space.
Beaches be annoyan, yo.
That's actually not a bad idea. Where do you find basements?
Basement store.
Frustration, social anxiety, misanthropy, irritability...
I can relate, actually. For one, women's voices can be very irritating. And if you're just a private person, too much encroachment in your space, even if it's indirectly, can start wearing on you.
Just try to get away a little more, maybe? When I was in college, I always disliked my roommates. They didn't do anything wrong, but just having to share my space was irritating. But I spent a lot of time just walking around or at friend's places to remedy this.
Anybody gets frustrated when they feel like their space is being violated, maybe some more than others. Get out more or something. I don't think anything's just going to make this tolerable if you don't do anything differently.
Frustration, social anxiety, misanthropy, irritability...
I can relate, actually. For one, women's voices can be very irritating. And if you're just a private person, too much encroachment in your space, even if it's indirectly, can start wearing on you.
Just try to get away a little more, maybe? When I was in college, I always disliked my roommates. They didn't do anything wrong, but just having to share my space was irritating. But I spent a lot of time just walking around or at friend's places to remedy this.
Anybody gets frustrated when they feel like their space is being violated, maybe some more than others. Get out more or something. I don't think anything's just going to make this tolerable if you don't do anything differently.
That is pretty much what I do. Sometimes, I will go for a walk that lasts hours. I go hiking all of the time just to get away from them. And I spend more time than anyone should at the library. Still, I do these things, and without fail, I come home to high pitched voices and I just feel like I am gonna lose it one of these day.
That is pretty much what I do. Sometimes, I will go for a walk that lasts hours. I go hiking all of the time just to get away from them. And I spend more time than anyone should at the library. Still, I do these things, and without fail, I come home to high pitched voices and I just feel like I am gonna lose it one of these day.
I don't think there's anything you can do, nor do I think that the reasons for why you feel this way are that mysterious. You're probably just going to have to deal with it. Sh*tsux, bro.
Alternatively, if you're really at your wit's end why not just try and ask them to speak a little quieter? Maybe if an argument ensues they'll eventually get sick of it and move out. Or maybe they'll even actually be understanding.
I don't expect that they will be, but, it's worth a try.
I don't think there's anything you can do, nor do I think that the reasons for why you feel this way are that mysterious. You're probably just going to have to deal with it. Sh*tsux, bro.
Alternatively, if you're really at your wit's end why not just try and ask them to speak a little quieter? Maybe if an argument ensues they'll eventually get sick of it and move out. Or maybe they'll even actually be understanding.
I don't expect that they will be, but, it's worth a try.
Yeah, I don't think that would go over well. You're right; I'll just have to deal with it. I guess I just hate other people, and I have to find some way to live like that.
Yeah, I don't think that would go over well. You're right; I'll just have to deal with it. I guess I just hate other people, and I have to find some way to live like that.
F**king talk to them bro.
You don't like them, what do you care what they think of you? Confront them. Act like a reasonable person and politely let them know the problem.
Honestly, I don't imagine that asking a woman to be quieter would go down well, they can be whiny. But again, who cares what they think? If they get bitchy with you, don't back down. Speak with a little force. Stand up for yourself. They're just people, they aren't dangerous. Even if you're a frail recluse you're still probably stronger than the average woman. I'm not trying to encourage violence, but maybe instill some confidence in you.
BELIEVE IN ME WHO BELIEVES IN YOU
Because I'm curious as to why I feel this way.
And I'm not sure how I would deal directly with the fact that I can't stand the presence of other people when I am in what I consider at the time to be my space.
You didn't develop impulse control as a child, and it's showing as an adult. You want things when you want them and ONLY when you want them.
It isn't a personality disorder, and trying to blame them on issues "out of your control" as opposed to attempting to develop what most people typically gain during childhood won't help you.
It's called the: having females in close proximity disorder. It's very common amongst both males and females.
You didn't develop impulse control as a child, and it's showing as an adult. You want things when you want them and ONLY when you want them.
It isn't a personality disorder, and trying to blame them on issues "out of your control" as opposed to attempting to develop what most people typically gain during childhood won't help you.
You clearly don't know what impulse control is. I don't actually scream at them. I scream at them in my head, which is decidedly controlling my impulses. You are stuck on this narrative, only it doesn't make any sense.
F**king talk to them bro.
You don't like them, what do you care what they think of you? Confront them. Act like a reasonable person and politely let them know the problem.
Honestly, I don't imagine that asking a woman to be quieter would go down well, they can be whiny. But again, who cares what they think? If they get bitchy with you, don't back down. Speak with a little force. Stand up for yourself. They're just people, they aren't dangerous. Even if you're a frail recluse you're still probably stronger than the average woman. I'm not trying to encourage violence, but maybe instill some confidence in you.
BELIEVE IN ME WHO BELIEVES IN YOU
If they were actually doing something wrong, I would talk to them, but they aren't. They aren't so much loud, as we have sh*tty walls.
It's called the: having females in close proximity disorder. It's very common amongst both males and females.
Pretty much this.is trolling, or at least exaggerating. This has nothing to do with "impulse control", people can just be irritating.
You didn't develop impulse control as a child, and it's showing as an adult. You want things when you want them and ONLY when you want them.
It isn't a personality disorder, and trying to blame them on issues "out of your control" as opposed to attempting to develop what most people typically gain during childhood won't help you.
It's called the: having females in close proximity disorder. It's very common amongst both males and females.
what is this disorder entail?
You clearly don't know what impulse control is. I don't actually scream at them. I scream at them in my head, which is decidedly controlling my impulses. You are stuck on this narrative, only it doesn't make any sense.
If they were actually doing something wrong, I would talk to them, but they aren't. They aren't so much loud, as we have sh*tty walls.
You're being a child about people not doing what you want them to do. You never grew up.
If you want to blame your sh*t on something, blame your parents for not teaching you how to cope.
You're being a child about people not doing what you want them to do. You never grew up.
If you want to blame your sh*t on something, blame your parents for not teaching you how to cope.
But I'm not being a child about it, That is precisely the thing. I am being an adult about it, and rather than expect them to adapt to my condition, I live it - and express my frustrations on the internet. If I were being a child, I would demand that they change, even though they aren't doing anything wrong. Why can you not move past your decidedly wrong interpretation?
But I'm not being a child about it, That is precisely the thing. I am being an adult about it, and rather than expect them to adapt to my condition, I live it - and express my frustrations on the internet. If I were being a child, I would demand that they change, even though they aren't doing anything wrong. Why can you not move past your decidedly wrong interpretation?
Impulse in relation to coping. I suppose "coping" would be the better word.
Though you aren't acting out, your inability to accept that people won't conform to your preferences is childish. Your want to blame it all on some "disorder" is even worse.
But I'm not being a child about it, That is precisely the thing. I am being an adult about it, and rather than expect them to adapt to my condition, I live it - and express my frustrations on the internet. If I were being a child, I would demand that they change, even though they aren't doing anything wrong. Why can you not move past your decidedly wrong interpretation?
>> NO IT'S CLEARLY OUT OF MY CONTROL BAAAWWWWW
Impulse in relation to coping. I suppose "coping" would be the better word.
Though you aren't acting out, your inability to accept that people won't conform to your preferences is childish. Your want to blame it all on some "disorder" is even worse.
In what sense have I not accepted it? I realize that they won't and so I do what I can to adapt.
You are just going to have to accept that psychology is never going to be your thing.
And what the f**k does "impulse in relation to coping" even mean? English probably won't be your strong suit either.
>> NO IT'S CLEARLY OUT OF MY CONTROL BAAAWWWWW
lol
now this is just bad trolling
In what sense have I not accepted it? I realize that they won't and so I do what I can to adapt.
You are just going to have to accept that psychology is never going to be your thing.
And what the f**k does "impulse in relation to coping" even mean? English probably won't be your strong suit either.
http://www.psychnet-uk.com/dsm_iv/_misc/complete_tables.htm
Here. Search it out.
Also, Stanford clearly disagreed.
http://www.psychnet-uk.com/dsm_iv/_misc/complete_tables.htm
Here. Search it out.
Also, Stanford clearly disagreed.
what am I looking for here?
Have you ever become irritated by something and been unable to simply will away that emotion?
If you haven't, then you're superhuman. If you have, then you can understand the situation.
what am I looking for here?
>>What kind of disorder do I have?
Meet the grad student's bible made easy.
>>What kind of disorder do I have?
Meet the grad student's bible made easy.
Right, if I wanted to scour the dsm for my condition, then I would have done so.
Have you ever become irritated by something and been unable to simply will away that emotion?
If you haven't, then you're superhuman. If you have, then you can understand the situation.
There's a difference in general annoyance and not being able to tolerate something so much you want to believe it's a disorder.
There's a difference in general annoyance and not being able to tolerate something so much you want to believe it's a disorder.
>want to believe it's a disorder
Silly people do this all the time. Not unusual.
Right, if I wanted to scour the dsm for my condition, then I would have done so.
You asked for a disorder, bro. You're denying perspectives, and claim it must be SOMETHING internal going on (out of your control). Here's a mostly up to date list of psychological disorders.
There's a difference in general annoyance and not being able to tolerate something so much you want to believe it's a disorder.
Aren't people generally able to tolerate the presence of other humans?
Don't you think someone who is unable to do that might have a disorder?
Did you really major in psychology? because you are f**king retarded
You asked for a disorder, bro. You're denying perspectives, and claim it must be SOMETHING internal going on (out of your control). Here's a mostly up to date list of psychological disorders.
Right
What I didn't do was scour the DSM.
And I'm only denying your perspective because it is demonstrably nonsensical. So you say "here, look through this sh*t" because you aren't clever enough to come up with an explanation that makes sense.
Aren't people generally able to tolerate the presence of other humans?
Don't you think someone who is unable to do that might have a disorder?
Did you really major in psychology? because you are f**king retarded
Doctorate, bro. You can argue it with the board.
Anyway, your "problem" is being being underdeveloped and wanting to pin it on something out of your control. Go to a therapist, tell them the same thing, and see what they start working with you on.
You have a list of disorders... So search through them. Maybe you'll find something more to your preference.
Right
What I didn't do was scour the DSM.
And I'm only denying your perspective because it is demonstrably nonsensical. So you say "here, look through this sh*t" because you aren't clever enough to come up with an explanation that makes sense.
>>explanation that makes sense.
>>explanation that I prefer.
Fixed!
Doctorate, bro. You can argue it with the board.
Anyway, your "problem" is being being underdeveloped and wanting to pin it on something out of your control. Go to a therapist, tell them the same thing, and see what they start working with you on.
You have a list of disorders... So search through them. Maybe you'll find something more to your preference.
Well, you are f**king retarded, doctorate or no.
I've never had anyone miss the mark so badly. My therapist is much cleverer than you.
I'VE GOT IT
there's something in the water that's causing a chemical reaction with ops brain, which makes him angry at everyone
>>explanation that makes sense.
>>explanation that I prefer.
Fixed!
I already showed you how your explanation made no sense. At which point you changed it to "impulse in relation to coping" of which you are, no doubt, still unable to explain the meaning.
Well, you are f**king retarded, doctorate or no.
I've never had anyone miss the mark so badly. My therapist is much cleverer than you.
Why are you asking anonymous then? You've clearly got all your answers, and know more than anyone else.
I already showed you how your explanation made no sense. At which point you changed it to "impulse in relation to coping" of which you are, no doubt, still unable to explain the meaning.
Impulses are wants, not actions.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/impulse
Why are you asking anonymous then? You've clearly got all your answers, and know more than anyone else.
You are the only person in this thread whose answers have been idiotic. There are some people whom I've agreed with, if you would just look.
Impulses are wants, not actions.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/impulse
and I control those.
Impulse control disorder would be the inability to keep those wants from turning to action.
and I control those.
Impulse control disorder would be the inability to keep those wants from turning to action.
I said I didn't feel it was a disorder. I said I felt your main issue is that you're unable to cope with those impulses, even if you're not acting out on them. You never learned how to manage them, and instead get angry when those roommates act in a way you don't prefer them to (even if it's just existing when you don't want them to). It's called "Not growing up," but if you'd prefer "Not Growing Up Thought Disorder."
But again, go ahead: The DSM will certainly have something you'd prefer.
You appear to have 'living with horrible housemates' disorder, and is fixed by sh*tting on their pillows.
I said I didn't feel it was a disorder. I said I felt your main issue is that you're unable to cope with those impulses, even if you're not acting out on them. You never learned how to manage them, and instead get angry when those roommates act in a way you don't prefer them to (even if it's just existing when you don't want them to). It's called "Not growing up," but if you'd prefer "Not Growing Up Thought Disorder."
But again, go ahead: The DSM will certainly have something you'd prefer.
You keep wanting to relate it to "not growing up" but that doesn't make any sense. If I were childish about it, I would demand they stop. And I think everyone gets angry when people don't act the way they would prefer. I am only curious as to why their presence is something I despise (a point which you have yet to grasp, despite my repeating it over and over). You clearly don't have a doctorate and are just a troll.
The Not Growing Up schtick is getting old and contributes nothing but a thinly veiled insult.
You appear to have 'living with horrible housemates' disorder, and is fixed by sh*tting on their pillows.
Use their toothbrushes on your sh*tty anus and wash the big chunks off.
The Not Growing Up schtick is getting old and contributes nothing but a thinly veiled insult.
It sounds more like "troll pretends to not understand sh*tty roommates."
You keep wanting to relate it to "not growing up" but that doesn't make any sense. If I were childish about it, I would demand they stop. And I think everyone gets angry when people don't act the way they would prefer. I am only curious as to why their presence is something I despise (a point which you have yet to grasp, despite my repeating it over and over). You clearly don't have a doctorate and are just a troll.
You're defining "childish" as being one who would act out. I'm defining "childish" by how you react to things. You act like someone who did not develop impulse and coping skills.
Maybe you should question why you get so pissed off when someone tells you something you don't want to hear.
Anyway, it's time to go to bed. Four classes tomorrow.
Good luck with growing up, bro!
You're defining "childish" as being one who would act out. I'm defining "childish" by how you react to things. You act like someone who did not develop impulse and coping skills.
Maybe you should question why you get so pissed off when someone tells you something you don't want to hear.
Anyway, it's time to go to bed. Four classes tomorrow.
Good luck with growing up, bro!
I go for walk, hike, and go to the library. Those are things I do to cope. You are a psych doctorate student and you don't even know what coping is? And you have still missed the call of the question.
And I am not pissed off. That you need to pretend that I am only gives more credence to the fact that you are nothing but a troll.
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