I'm in a LDR with the woman I love. I cheated on her, and because I love her so much, I told her of my mistake. Being in a LDR is hard, but we see each other often and when we do - it's f**king amazing.
She says she can't just stay with me even though she loves me. And I'm hoping that it's temporary.. she is visiting this summer. She would have came in July, but since I'm a dumbsh*t and cheated, she's only coming in September for about a month.
I have viisted her country and met her whole family. They are all great people. I want this woman for the rest of my life, and I would even MOVE to her country (Austria) just to be with her.
But I have failed her. One night I got horny and let a friend (female) grope me. I felt bad so I stopped. And then we did that later again but outside of my clothing(think pg-13 sh*t). No sex or kissing was involved.
What the f**k do I do? :( I have hope. I believe that when she sees me again she will forgive me and put it in the past. We both love each other to death and we are both suffering because of my actions. Sorry, I had to vent.
Any input is appreciated. Even trolls.
Your age?
anon
lol I dont even know where to begin.
keep your dick in your pants man, stop being a man wh**re if you love someone, you're no different than a regular wh**re.
Inb4 butthurt female, I'm a ronery male.
no sex and kissing... then it's not f**king cheating. cristo. why not go visit her?
Your age?
anon
Ah, forgot to mention that. Me 22, she will be 20 next year.
BE A MAN
DO THA RIGHT THING
Show a little respect. You say you live this girl but you clearly don't. Be a man and live up to your word; until you do this you will remain a child.
You are dirt.
no sex and kissing... then it's not f**king cheating. cristo. why not go visit her?
The only time I can visit her would be during the winter. I'd have to ask my job for 3 weeks off. She's coming in the summer. Sh*t's expensive but worth it.
BE A MAN
DO THA RIGHT THING
I apologized my ass off to her, and I'll keep doing it. I'll write to her every week and everything. I just don't want to give up. She's my soulmate and I won't let her go that easy.
How exactly did your female friend grope you?
An hero.
Organise a suicide pact if that's what you want.
When you cheat on someone you love, like really love, don't tell them because you will obviously feel like sh*t for cheating anyway. Telling them is selfish. It is your punishment to deal with the guilt and paranoia in silence. Telling them will ruin your relationship and demolish any trust they will ever have for you.
I'd hate to quote a lady gaga video, but:
"Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it's broke, but you can still see the crack in that motherf**ker's reflection."
You f**ked up when you told her. Why should she have to suffer as well as you? That's unfair and now both of you are on the outs. The best thing to do is pretend it never happened and MAKE SURE it never happens again in the future.
People f**k up when they're in love. Many times it's out of frustration (sexual or otherwise) or confusion or insecurity. It happens. Everyone is fallible. However, you have to understand that when you f**k up, keep it to your goddamn self. Telling is selfish and it will only hurt both of you in the long run.
If you loved this girl you would not have done this. Do what is best for her and stay away from her
How exactly did your female friend grope you?
She grabbed my c**k. I initiated it though. Yes, I'm a stupid f**k. No, I don't know why I did it. Being horny is not a good enough reason. LDR is hard man :(
An hero.
Organise a suicide pact if that's what you want.
I feel like an-heroing.
She grabbed my c**k. I initiated it though. Yes, I'm a stupid f**k. No, I don't know why I did it. Being horny is not a good enough reason. LDR is hard man :(
I feel like an-heroing.
She grabbed your c**k through your clothes or was it a proper handjob?
Telling her that you cheated on her lol wow talk about a retard move..
Telling her that you cheated on her lol wow talk about a retard move..
Both.
When you cheat on someone you love, like really love, don't tell them because you will obviously feel like sh*t for cheating anyway. Telling them is selfish. It is your punishment to deal with the guilt and paranoia in silence. Telling them will ruin your relationship and demolish any trust they will ever have for you.
I'd hate to quote a lady gaga video, but:
"Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it's broke, but you can still see the crack in that motherf**ker's reflection."
You f**ked up when you told her. Why should she have to suffer as well as you? That's unfair and now both of you are on the outs. The best thing to do is pretend it never happened and MAKE SURE it never happens again in the future.
People f**k up when they're in love. Many times it's out of frustration (sexual or otherwise) or confusion or insecurity. It happens. Everyone is fallible. However, you have to understand that when you f**k up, keep it to your goddamn self. Telling is selfish and it will only hurt both of you in the long run.
Yeah, next time I'll know. Next time I won't even f**king dare to cheat. This sh*t is so horrible man.
She grabbed my c**k. I initiated it though. Yes, I'm a stupid f**k. No, I don't know why I did it. Being horny is not a good enough reason. LDR is hard man :(
I feel like an-heroing.
Listen, like I said, you f**ked up twice: When you cheated and when you told her.
If she comes back, it was meant to be. If she doesn't, I'm sorry, but at least you know what to do in the future, like for instance, DON'T CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE. In fact, don't cheat at all, it's reprehensible and hurtful to all parties you affect and highly selfish. If you want to f**k around, don't get into a relationship.
Why not...
Date your friend?
Consider it over, start a fresh and hope you get that f**king lucky again.
Do you think you still deserve her? I doubt it.
you f**ked up OP. theres nothing you can do now. stop apologizing, it doesnt mean anything. either she's going to forgive you/eventually forgive you or she wont.
it'll probably take her some time to forgive you if she does, and pestering her and relentlessly saying 'im sorry' wont speed the process along. that and she needs to go out and f**k three dudes before deciding she still wants to be with you.
Why not...
Date your friend?
are you retarded? :P
Listen, like I said, you f**ked up twice: When you cheated and when you told her.
If she comes back, it was meant to be. If she doesn't, I'm sorry, but at least you know what to do in the future, like for instance, DON'T CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE. In fact, don't cheat at all, it's reprehensible and hurtful to all parties you affect and highly selfish. If you want to f**k around, don't get into a relationship.
Yeah, I just realized what a sh*t mistake I did by telling her as well. You make a good point.
Why not...
Date your friend?
F**k that bitch. I would NEVER date her. Annoying as f**k personality.
Why not...
Date your friend?
BECAUSE THATS NOT HIS SOULMATE, YOU IDIOT!!!
THEYRE JUST F**KBUDDIES, GOD!
Telling her: Dumb move, but an essential move. It shows that you do care about her enough to let her know when you f**ked up. She you may lose her, but at least you told her. It would have been worse if she had found out on her own, and it looked like you had tried to hide it. (Though since it is an LDR, it's admittedly easier to hide.) Trust is important in a relationship, and the fact that you came clean about breaking the trust should show something about how you guys are with each other.
Yeah, I just realized what a sh*t mistake I did by telling her as well. You make a good point.
F**k that bitch. I would NEVER date her. Annoying as f**k personality.
>F**k that bitch. I would NEVER date her. Annoying as f**k personality.
But you let her give you a handjob? Yeah, okay then.
If you tell her you will preserve whatever honor you have left at the expense of giving her an excuse to cheat on you or break up with you (she WILL do one or the other and she will go a lot farther if she cheats).
Or you can be a depraved slut and not tell her at all but risk her finding out and losing trust in her since you know that you aren't honest with each other.
Telling her: Dumb move, but an essential move. It shows that you do care about her enough to let her know when you f**ked up. She you may lose her, but at least you told her. It would have been worse if she had found out on her own, and it looked like you had tried to hide it. (Though since it is an LDR, it's admittedly easier to hide.) Trust is important in a relationship, and the fact that you came clean about breaking the trust should show something about how you guys are with each other.
This made me feel better. Thanks.
>F**k that bitch. I would NEVER date her. Annoying as f**k personality.
But you let her give you a handjob? Yeah, okay then.
Read : Horny.
For anyone reading this who ever accidentally cheats on their girlfriend, and there's no chance of her finding out, don't ever, ever tell her like this poor bastard did.
If you love them, suck up the guilt and swallow the need to share. No good can come of it. Just make sure you learn a lesson and don't do it again.
This made me feel better. Thanks.
Read : Horny.
No problem bro. I think about what I would do if I ever cheated on the girl I'm with right now, and it generally seems to be along those lines.
Also tell her that you told her because you wanted her to know because you wanted to show her how much you do actually care for her and that you believe nothing should be hidden between the two of you.
Also give it time, her wounds gotta heal.
This made me feel better. Thanks.
Read : Horny.
>Read : No will power or respect for girlfriend
For anyone reading this who ever accidentally cheats on their girlfriend, and there's no chance of her finding out, don't ever, ever tell her like this poor bastard did.
If you love them, suck up the guilt and swallow the need to share. No good can come of it. Just make sure you learn a lesson and don't do it again.
>accidentally cheats
lolwat
"WHOOPS! I SLIPPED AND MY PENIS LODGED IN HER VAGINA!"
Just read this thread OP and think you shouldn't feel so bad and telling her was admirable but maybe not necessary.
I'm married now and I have cheated early in my relationship but I never told. What you did seems prety harmless to me, it really depends on your morals.
I would try to show her how much you DO love her, but at the same time, give her some space and time to consider how she really feels for you. DON'T demand a 'yes or no' answer immediately.
She should realise that you feel guilty and that you can be trusted to be honest at least even if you your impulses can't be 100%
Just read this thread OP and think you shouldn't feel so bad and telling her was admirable but maybe not necessary.
I'm married now and I have cheated early in my relationship but I never told. What you did seems prety harmless to me, it really depends on your morals.
I would try to show her how much you DO love her, but at the same time, give her some space and time to consider how she really feels for you. DON'T demand a 'yes or no' answer immediately.
She should realise that you feel guilty and that you can be trusted to be honest at least even if you your impulses can't be 100%
>What you did seems prety harmless to me
>cheats on his soulmate
>prety harmless
ReaIIy? What kind of f**ked up morals do you posses where cheating on the love of your life is pretty harmless?
Just read this thread OP and think you shouldn't feel so bad and telling her was admirable but maybe not necessary.cont
I'm married now and I have cheated early in my relationship but I never told. What you did seems prety harmless to me, it really depends on your morals.
I would try to show her how much you DO love her, but at the same time, give her some space and time to consider how she really feels for you. DON'T demand a 'yes or no' answer immediately.
She should realise that you feel guilty and that you can be trusted to be honest at least even if you your impulses can't be 100%
>it really depends on your morals.
You need to define what cheating is to each other.
Some people say lying is cheating.
Some people say feeling lust is cheating.
Some people say only sex is cheating.
Some people say hurting the other is cheating.
Wha do you and your girl consider cheating?
I am baffled as to why you felt the need to tell her.
>What you did seems prety harmless to me
>cheats on his soulmate
>prety harmless
ReaIIy? What kind of f**ked up morals do you posses where cheating on the love of your life is pretty harmless?
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cont
>it really depends on your morals.
You need to define what cheating is to each other.
Some people say lying is cheating.
Some people say feeling lust is cheating.
Some people say only sex is cheating.
Some people say hurting the other is cheating.
Wha do you and your girl consider cheating?
When I had to LDR with my GF (now wife), she told me that if she never found out about me playing around then she wouldn't care. She seemed like she would be more upset if I had feelings for another rather than having sex.
We had to LDR for 12 months and I told her that if she falls for another then that's okay, a lot can happen in a year.
We are now married and happy.
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When I had to LDR with my GF (now wife), she told me that if she never found out about me playing around then she wouldn't care. She seemed like she would be more upset if I had feelings for another rather than having sex.
We had to LDR for 12 months and I told her that if she falls for another then that's okay, a lot can happen in a year.
We are now married and happy.
Well great, more power to you. However, I think most couples believe sex is cheating.
I'm in a LDR, and have cheated a lot. It was open in the start and after a year of being together (we did the dont' see eachother for 2 months then live together for 2 weeks thing), it became cheating. I didn't know so I f**ked up. I still did it twice since then, one that he knows of.. and guess what? Now the thought disgust me. With LDR it's harder to get t othat point, but once you do you really can't leave it. OP just wasn't there yet.. not his fault
I'm in a TLDR with OP
I'm in a LDR, and have cheated a lot. It was open in the start and after a year of being together (we did the dont' see eachother for 2 months then live together for 2 weeks thing), it became cheating. I didn't know so I f**ked up. I still did it twice since then, one that he knows of.. and guess what? Now the thought disgust me. With LDR it's harder to get t othat point, but once you do you really can't leave it. OP just wasn't there yet.. not his fault
How's it feel knowing you're a sIut who can't keep her promise? Knowing you're run by emotions and not a sense of right or wrong?
Tell me, how's it feel?
How's it feel knowing you're a sIut who can't keep her promise? Knowing you're run by emotions and not a sense of right or wrong?
Tell me, how's it feel?
feels soft and warm and safe when he holds me
Well great, more power to you. However, I think most couples believe sex is cheating.
I believe that if I kissed or f**ked her, I do not deserve a second chance. Sex is another level of cheating. Yes, letting her grab me was not right, but to me it's not as harmful as other things. Too bad she doesn't see it that way. :(
Well great, more power to you. However, I think most couples believe sex is cheating.
LDR is soooo hard, I think you need to be flexible to a degree. A semi-open realtionship suited us and we both offered understanding to each other.
In that 12 months I didn't have sex with anyone but I kissed a couple of girls at a couple of parties, I never felt strong feelings for anyone though.
A couple defines their own standards and morals, like swingers and open-relationships. In my book, it is cheating if you do something that your partner wouldn't approve of and that would really hurt them.
Now we are married, I won't have sex, kiss or even grope another without my wife's permission. We've discussed having threesomes or partner swap and my wife said we might try those in time.
feels soft and warm and safe when he holds me
You didn't answer my question at all. You just evaded it, dodged it, you're a woman so you find it impossible to face your mistakes, so you post cutesy sh*t like this to make yourself feel all better.
Want some ice cream and a blankie, cupcake?
I believe that if I kissed or f**ked her, I do not deserve a second chance. Sex is another level of cheating. Yes, letting her grab me was not right, but to me it's not as harmful as other things. Too bad she doesn't see it that way. :(
I would write a letter/email and open your heart to her, don't constantly harrass her but let her know you are waiting for her to give a final decision.
I would write a letter/email and open your heart to her, don't constantly harrass her but let her know you are waiting for her to give a final decision.
That is my plan broseph. But I really do think that seeing her this summer will make a difference. We'll see. We have too many good memories with each other. It all just can't go away for a stupid f**king mistake on my part. I'll hang on to my hope for now.
That is my plan broseph. But I really do think that seeing her this summer will make a difference. We'll see. We have too many good memories with each other. It all just can't go away for a stupid f**king mistake on my part. I'll hang on to my hope for now.
Also, a handwritten letter. I send her too many e-mails.
I believe that if I kissed or f**ked her, I do not deserve a second chance. Sex is another level of cheating. Yes, letting her grab me was not right, but to me it's not as harmful as other things. Too bad she doesn't see it that way. :(
No one f**kin' cares some chick grabbed your weiner. That sh*t happens all the time. How you really f**ked up is when you pu**ied out and had to tell her because your gay little personality couldn't stand the guilt. Nice guys like you don't deserve these kind of girls, OP.
You're practically my uncle, he cheated on my aunt. We forgave him the first time, the second time we broke his jaw & his social circle & his job & ...
Forget her
I believe that if I kissed or f**ked her, I do not deserve a second chance. Sex is another level of cheating. Yes, letting her grab me was not right, but to me it's not as harmful as other things. Too bad she doesn't see it that way. :(
You believe a kiss is worse than a handjob. Boy, you're all kinds of stupid.
What's your girlfriends phone number? I could take care of her.
You didn't answer my question at all. You just evaded it, dodged it, you're a woman so you find it impossible to face your mistakes, so you post cutesy sh*t like this to make yourself feel all better.
Want some ice cream and a blankie, cupcake?
You didn't answer my question at all. You just evaded it, dodged it, you're a woman so you find it impossible to face your mistakes, so you post cutesy sh*t like this to make yourself feel all better.
Want some ice cream and a blankie, cupcake?
I faced my mistakes... I was mostly honest to my boyfriend, and have changed my ways. I use to drink, I gave it up. I gave up going to parties. I gave up hangin around guys.
That is my plan broseph. But I really do think that seeing her this summer will make a difference. We'll see. We have too many good memories with each other. It all just can't go away for a stupid f**king mistake on my part. I'll hang on to my hope for now.
Also, a handwritten letter. I send her too many e-mails.
I wouldn't spam her too much, I think you need to give her some degree of space to consider her thoughts and feelings.
A handwritten letter is a nice touch, it's more personal and you can draw cute little pictures and put some photos of you together.
I think if you can visit her that will be a good opportunity to kiss her ass and show her a great time.
>I cheated on her
>and because I love her so much
Why did you even do it if you love her that much?
>I cheated on her
>and because I love her so much
Why did you even do it if you love her that much?
I wanted to be honest. It just seemed better that she knew instead of me just lying to her and hold it in. I hate my life.
I wanted to be honest. It just seemed better that she knew instead of me just lying to her and hold it in. I hate my life.
Why did you cheat, not why did you tell her?
The way I see it, if you TRULY love her, the mere thought of cheating on her would make you feel sick. You'd never put yourself in a position to become compromised. Other women would seem petty and meaningless to you if you had the perfect woman.
You cheated because she's not 'the one', she's just an infatuation. Whatever relationship you had will be forever changed for the worse since you cheated on her.
Sorry, bub. Just the way I see it.
Why did you cheat, not why did you tell her?
The way I see it, if you TRULY love her, the mere thought of cheating on her would make you feel sick. You'd never put yourself in a position to become compromised. Other women would seem petty and meaningless to you if you had the perfect woman.
You cheated because she's not 'the one', she's just an infatuation. Whatever relationship you had will be forever changed for the worse since you cheated on her.
Sorry, bub. Just the way I see it.
I don't know. I was thinking with my dick and not my brain. I made a big mistake. And the sh*tty thing is that there is nothing I can do. I can't go back in time or anything. I have to live life with regret.
I just found this topic and WHOA, what's all this about Light Dependent Resistors?
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