How is your relationship with your father?

Okay anons, dadchat time. How is your relationship with your father?

f-father?

My Dad's immigrated to America from thirdworldia. He hated my guts because I was a bit of a bad sheep , so I grew up amongst burnouts, junkies, wastoids, and trash instead. We speak two entirely different languages, cannot relate to each other at all. Sh*t's very 'meh'.

Good, I'd say. Compared to a lot of people, great. He respects me, I respect him, and we're comfortable talking about most things. He's always been supportive, even when I haven't always been the best son at times.
The only particularly large disagreement we have is that I'm a supporter of looser firearms restrictions, whereas he supports stricter ones. We generally avoid discussing the topic, though.

I alternate between having so much respect for my dad that I will literally do anything to try and please him and resenting the f**k out of him for being a mean, overly critical bastard who considers me a disappointment despite my best efforts. I hate him but he's a better man than I'll ever be.

He doesn't know me well, and is still stuck in traditional Russian life (as he and I are Russian). It gets in the way sometimes. Also, he has no idea how to deal with a daughter (me) and it has left me somewhat more independent than I wish I had been these past... 5 years.

I lived with my mom since I was seven. I've seen him once since I immigrated. Anyhow, no relationship to speak of. Now I only date older men.

My dad is an a**hole. I've just stopped answering the phone when he calls.

He wants to keep me under his cloak of protection forever because I'm his youngest daughter and he doesn't want anything bad to happen to me and this sometimes turns into him being harsh or critical of my life choices because they're not what he wishes I was doing.
He also dislikes my choice of music.
Otherwise he's a pretty cool guy, this one time he punched a drunk native for throwing a broom at me. Sh*t was cash.

I lived with my mom since I was seven. I've seen him once since I immigrated. Anyhow, no relationship to speak of. Now I only date older men.

Holy sh*t. I think I am the same way as you. :/ I lived with my mo, until I was 7, then with both for 5 years, then with my dad the rest. And I have never really felt close to him. Shiiiit.

I just found out I have a 35 year old german half brother from dresden and that my dad was married twice before he met my mum.
Why did he wait until I was 23 to tell me this?

He doesn't know me well, and is still stuck in traditional Russian life (as he and I are Russian). It gets in the way sometimes. Also, he has no idea how to deal with a daughter (me) and it has left me somewhat more independent than I wish I had been these past... 5 years.

marry a jew, laugh all the way to jewbank.

I never see the motherf**ker my whole life, then when I do, the jackass cuts my arm off.
Then he builds a death start to destroy planets and sh*t.
I wish I never met him.

Never met my real father.
My step dad is a red-neck idiot, but still a better dad than my real one.

My dad built six houses. All by himself, with literally no help whatsoever. He designed and built six houses with his bare hands. The last one when he was 58. I lived at some point in my life in four of them. My dad is a constant reminder to how inadequate of a person I am.

He wants to keep me under his cloak of protection forever because I'm his youngest daughter and he doesn't want anything bad to happen to me and this sometimes turns into him being harsh or critical of my life choices because they're not what he wishes I was doing.
He also dislikes my choice of music.
Otherwise he's a pretty cool guy, this one time he punched a drunk native for throwing a broom at me. Sh*t was cash.

whats your choice of music?

I never see the motherf**ker my whole life, then when I do, the jackass cuts my arm off.
Then he builds a death start to destroy planets and sh*t.
I wish I never met him.

>death start
>start
well f**k, a great joke is derailed

My dad is great, we get along really well which is weird, because we really didn't know that much about eachother until I turned 18 and started having a beer with him every Wednesday at the bowls club.
That's the best way we get along, mainly because he's a big supporter of sports and used to be a football player but I never really got that into sports.
Aside from that, we have alot of the same values and opinions on things, the same type of humour and he's always been supportive and helpful.
If I had to choose an issue I hae with him is that he is really quick to get angry [something he passed on to my sister] and can dwell on it for a while.
I can't really blame him that much... how would you feel if your son was on anonymous, if not web?

my dad died when I was two

My dad built six houses. All by himself, with literally no help whatsoever. He designed and built six houses with his bare hands. The last one when he was 58. I lived at some point in my life in four of them. My dad is a constant reminder to how inadequate of a person I am.

Don't feel too bad. It's this whole generatioal difference thing. Your times are much different compared to your parent's and grandparent's, and there's little you can do now to be as badass as your parents.

nonexistent
he died when i was 12.
went to prison when i was 4.
he died 1.5 months before he was getting out
;_;

my dad likes to drink 10 pints of beer and drive home, he explained that it is better than my mother driving his precious bmw sober because she is sh*t at driving.. lol.

My dad is a pretty cool guy, eh is very supportive and doesn't afraid of anything. We have a good relationship. I can only wonder how I would've turned out if he had abandoned the family like he was originally planning to. (Marriage troubles, lulz)
On the other hand, my relationship with my mother is abysmal. (Unlike dad, she DID end up leaving)

My father murdered my mother in front of me, and forced me to have sex with him throughout my childhood, until after the murder when he was finally locked up for good.
Well, not me, but a girl I used to go out with. My dad is ok I guess.

I am very jealous of people who have a great relationship with their parents. The difference between my dad's life and mine will prevent me from having any close relationship with him. Also, he drinks everyday. :[

He's always kind of resented me for being a loser. He used to make fun of me constantly.
I think he's slowly beginning to respect me as I become more successful. Our relationship is still strained at best though.

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My dad recently filed for divorce against my mother, and moved out of the house to go live with his girlfriend somewhere else. He's cut most of the amenities we had, internet, phone, cable, etc. because "money is tight" on his side. This is bullsh*t, however, cause he just bought a ton of new sh*t when he moved out, and is constantly binging on beers. He's also purchased a new car for himself, and won't give my mother any money to fix her broken-for-2-months-van, so me, my sister, and her all have to share one car, when we all have different schedules. He's been trying with increasing desperation to force my mother to sell the house we currently live in so he can cut all ties with her, and me and my sister.
tl;dr
I dont' like my father very much.

My dad and I are seriously best buds. He came up to visit me at college yesterday to attend a charity banquet I cochaired. He's seriously one of the most awesome people I know, and the funniest. I aspire to be like him. Daddy's girl all the way!
Pic related, daddy & I :3

My dad and I are seriously best buds. He came up to visit me at college yesterday to attend a charity banquet I cochaired. He's seriously one of the most awesome people I know, and the funniest. I aspire to be like him. Daddy's girl all the way!
Pic related, daddy & I :3

chill out electra

My dad and I are seriously best buds. He came up to visit me at college yesterday to attend a charity banquet I cochaired. He's seriously one of the most awesome people I know, and the funniest. I aspire to be like him. Daddy's girl all the way!
Pic related, daddy & I :3

That is the cutest f**king picture I have ever seen

My dad is an ass that doesn't understand a word that I speak.
I have to dumb everything down and repeat myself at least twice.
He blames me for missing things, broken things, and things that go wrong.
When I suggest a plan of action he says it won't work, waits half an hour, says what I said and then claims the idea as his own.
He isolated me from technology at a young age because of irrational fears.
I spend my waking days proving him wrong, disrespecting him, and making his life hell.
The only things he's done for me is support me, give me my life, and teach me self control.
Without that self control I probably would have killed my family out of pure rage a long time ago.

My Biological father an heroed when I was 6.
My step-dad is a pervert that put huge strain on our family. We still live with him for financial reasons, but he's in bad shape and won't live much longer.

My dad and I are seriously best buds. He came up to visit me at college yesterday to attend a charity banquet I cochaired. He's seriously one of the most awesome people I know, and the funniest. I aspire to be like him. Daddy's girl all the way!
Pic related, daddy & I :3

Whoa, i looked at this picture and honestly thought I smelled a barbecue for about 3 seconds.

My dad is an ass that doesn't understand a word that I speak.
I have to dumb everything down and repeat myself at least twice.
He blames me for missing things, broken things, and things that go wrong.
When I suggest a plan of action he says it won't work, waits half an hour, says what I said and then claims the idea as his own.
He isolated me from technology at a young age because of irrational fears.
I spend my waking days proving him wrong, disrespecting him, and making his life hell.
The only things he's done for me is support me, give me my life, and teach me self control.
Without that self control I probably would have killed my family out of pure rage a long time ago.

Your Dad sounds mildly dyslexic, but hardly seems like an a**hole that deserves being murdered by his own son. Get some perspective, damn.

My dad is an ass that doesn't understand a word that I speak.
I have to dumb everything down and repeat myself at least twice.
He blames me for missing things, broken things, and things that go wrong.
When I suggest a plan of action he says it won't work, waits half an hour, says what I said and then claims the idea as his own.
He isolated me from technology at a young age because of irrational fears.
I spend my waking days proving him wrong, disrespecting him, and making his life hell.
The only things he's done for me is support me, give me my life, and teach me self control.
Without that self control I probably would have killed my family out of pure rage a long time ago.

Jesus christ man, how old are you?

Awesome.
He's like a best friend/parent hybrid. We pal around with eachother unless/until I make a major f**kup of some sort or am about to do so then he goes into Dad mode until I fix my sh*t up.
It's pretty much perfect.

my dad and i used to be really close. i was a pretty decent daddys girl (though not to the extent that you see in the movies lol)
but after moving back in with my parents ive come to be a bit more independent, and i really dont like how he still treats me like a teenager and is a total a**hole. i could overlook that when i was younger, but now that i have some perspective on life it just looks pathetic.
the only way my dad has changed is that he's gotten dumber (or im just smart enough to see it).
meanwhile, i have changed in pretty much every way so i guess its mostly my fault....
...but our relationship is practically non-existent. i avoid him as much as possible. There will be days when I dont even talk to him, dont even see him, and we live in the same house.
He has a tendency to piss of everyone around him - especially me.
I've also been having to bite my tongue to not argue with him and to not cause more problems. Every time he says something stupid I have to force myself to walk away instead of correcting him.
I realize that web thinks im talking sh*t and my dad MUST know more than me. I'm not saying he's dumb (he is quite intelligent) but he says some really stupid things. like sharks dont swim in salt water. and the fact that he wont ever admit he's wrong. he'll just change his point so many times that no one else can follow what the f**k he's on about.
its f**king annoying.

Your Dad sounds mildly dyslexic, but hardly seems like an a**hole that deserves being murdered by his own son. Get some perspective, damn.

He hit me once when I was a kid for doing kid things. When it goes on for 15 years straight it wears on someone's patience. It wouldn't be so bad if he didn't come home and yell at everyone for stupid sh*t.

Jesus christ man, how old are you?

23

Detached but reasonable.
My dad is pretty similar to how I think I would be if I was in his position. We're on fine terms but we generally keep to ourselves besides in whole-family situations.
The main difference is that he's a little more high strung than I am, which manifests as being quick to anger and criticism. I'm cynical to a similar extent however I'm more relaxed about it.

My biological father and I have only the barest hint of a relationship. Awkward emails at holidays a few times per year. Only seen him a handful of times.
My step dad and I had a pretty sh*tty relationship for a while, largely due to me being an obnoxious brat and then an extremely angsty teenage fa**ot and him having a serious alcohol problem. Now things are a lot better and our relationship has a much higher concentration of bro. He's been sober for nearly a decade, too. Feels good, man.

My dad's a total tool.

>sleeps 12 hours a day
>works 6-8 hours a day
>eats constantly during the time he's awake
>during the few hours he's awake and at home he watches sh*tty sh*t like The History Channel and various political shows
>every hour he's at home he's in his underwear only
Seriously, he's now just a paycheck and nothing more. He's a pretty sh*tty Dad. Used to be cool besides the beatings, but he went to sh*t fast.

my dad and i used to be really close. i was a pretty decent daddys girl (though not to the extent that you see in the movies lol)
but after moving back in with my parents ive come to be a bit more independent, and i really dont like how he still treats me like a teenager and is a total a**hole. i could overlook that when i was younger, but now that i have some perspective on life it just looks pathetic.
the only way my dad has changed is that he's gotten dumber (or im just smart enough to see it).
meanwhile, i have changed in pretty much every way so i guess its mostly my fault....
...but our relationship is practically non-existent. i avoid him as much as possible. There will be days when I dont even talk to him, dont even see him, and we live in the same house.
He has a tendency to piss of everyone around him - especially me.
I've also been having to bite my tongue to not argue with him and to not cause more problems. Every time he says something stupid I have to force myself to walk away instead of correcting him.
I realize that web thinks im talking sh*t and my dad MUST know more than me. I'm not saying he's dumb (he is quite intelligent) but he says some really stupid things. like sharks dont swim in salt water. and the fact that he wont ever admit he's wrong. he'll just change his point so many times that no one else can follow what the f**k he's on about.
its f**king annoying.

There's *obviously* something going on with your Dad...who knows? Inadequacy issues at work? C'mon, who the f**k argues whether or not there are sharks in saltwater?! I'm sure his issues have far less to do with you than they do with whatever he f**ked up in his own life.

He hit me once when I was a kid for doing kid things. When it goes on for 15 years straight it wears on someone's patience. It wouldn't be so bad if he didn't come home and yell at everyone for stupid sh*t.

23

So, idgi. Did he hit you once at 15, and stopped? Or did he start at 15 and just hasn't stopped since?

Non-existant. I haven't talked to him since I was 13, wheb a social worker gave my mom full custody.

mine has been dead for nearly 14 years.

My dad is the complete opposite of me. He was in the air force, he's a hardcore republican, and in your face Christian. I'm an atheist, pacifist and believe politics are stupid.
We fight every time we're together for more than 15 mins.

There's *obviously* something going on with your Dad...who knows? Inadequacy issues at work? C'mon, who the f**k argues whether or not there are sharks in saltwater?! I'm sure his issues have far less to do with you than they do with whatever he f**ked up in his own life.

So, idgi. Did he hit you once at 15, and stopped? Or did he start at 15 and just hasn't stopped since?

lolwut someone trying to give advice based on the "suck it up" or "its all you" mentality
Thats fine I'll roll with it because your curious and curiosity shouldn't be wasted.
Honestly I don't remember if he hit me more than a few times when I was little. Maybe I repressed it, maybe not. At this point it doesn't really matter because it is part of what molded my personality.
Other than the constant wear on my short temper and the times that he insists on getting pissed at everything my relationship with my dad is fine.
I should say this as clarification though: When you know someone has a short temper you really shouldn't do things to provoke them. They may not display a modicum of self control.

My dad is pretty awesome. I take after him in many respects, but if I can be half the man he is, I will be happy.

haven't talked to him in a year and i thank my lord cthulhu that i haven't had to talk to that stupid redkneck bastard

There's *obviously* something going on with your Dad...who knows? Inadequacy issues at work? C'mon, who the f**k argues whether or not there are sharks in saltwater?! I'm sure his issues have far less to do with you than they do with whatever he f**ked up in his own life.

So, idgi. Did he hit you once at 15, and stopped? Or did he start at 15 and just hasn't stopped since?

he's a HUGE f**k up in life and he knows it.
I mean, he's got plenty to be proud of, but he's f**ked up on every major problem in life.
I asked my mom if he's depressed. She said he isnt. He's just always been a dick and competitive and starting arguments over nothing. Which is true. the sharks in salt water example was actually a conversation we had about two years before i moved back in. since ive moved back ive spoken to him very little.

Way to bring back bad memories, OP. I haven't talked to my dad in 5 years. He cheated on my mom and had a daughter with some bipolar bitch who just happens to have the same birthday as me. I know, what the f**k. He manipulated 2 of his best friends into hating each other. He tried to leave my mom and I homeless by getting the house in his name and having us kicked out. He showed more interest in his daughter than me. He had anger management issues. I know for a fact he hates me. I heard him say it to the bitch that he'd rather be stuck with my mom than me. Dumb f**k owes like 20,000$ in lawyer fees and over 50,000$ in other fees including child support. So, of course he leaves the country so he won't have to pay.
But, my stepdad is a cool bro. So everything worked out.