Sunday, September 26, 2010

Need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions




Hmm...it's kind of an individual thing, OP. Is she into the humiliation part of it, the bondage, the pain, the giving up control? Or does she just want you to be rough with her? Try it all out with her. She's given herself to you.
Also, you need to figure out what you like and order her to do it.
Work out a safeword with her before you do anything. But yeah, I would start by giving her a nice hard spanking, over your knee. Make her suck your c**k, and force her to take it deep. Talk to her while she's doing this about what a dirty slut she is and how you're going to punish her.
My girlfriend loves when I grip her neck with my hand - not tight enough to cut off her air, just enough for her to feel like I'm in control. Also, pull her hair and shove her around the bed.

Hmm...it's kind of an individual thing, OP. Is she into the humiliation part of it, the bondage, the pain, the giving up control? Or does she just want you to be rough with her? Try it all out with her. She's given herself to you.
Also, you need to figure out what you like and order her to do it.
Work out a safeword with her before you do anything. But yeah, I would start by giving her a nice hard spanking, over your knee. Make her suck your c**k, and force her to take it deep. Talk to her while she's doing this about what a dirty slut she is and how you're going to punish her.
My girlfriend loves when I grip her neck with my hand - not tight enough to cut off her air, just enough for her to feel like I'm in control. Also, pull her hair and shove her around the bed.

These are some good starting points, thanks. We've not known each other long, so I've been reluctant to do anything too extreme. I suppose the first thing I'll command her to do is tell me how far she's willing to go ;).


These are some good starting points, thanks. We've not known each other long, so I've been reluctant to do anything too extreme. I suppose the first thing I'll command her to do is tell me how far she's willing to go ;).

If she's 20, she's probably still working all that out. Start small, but instead of getting her permission for every little boundary, make her use her safeword. And talk about it outside the bedroom, too.
There are various books you should probably read to get into BDSM...Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns is a good starting point. Various erotica & how-to guides will help too.
The tough part for me was actually admitting I enjoyed hurting her and it turned me on. You need to do this because you enjoy it, too, not just to satisfy her. How do you feel about it all? It's not really something you try out like a new flavor of potato chip...more like an unspeakable hidden urge you're suddenly letting free.

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This girl I've been recently seeing told me a few nights ago that she's into domination. We've had sex, and I'm very open to new things, but so far the most I've done to dominate is to tell her what to do and how to do it. I'm thinking she wants me to be even more forceful, but I'm not sure how to proceed. We're both 20 and in college, and she's very shy, while I'm more outgoing.
tldr: I need some domination suggestions

This is what I do with my girlfriend - light domination stuff.
-Pull hair
-Choke, moderately or intensely.
-Slap her ass, tits, face (moderate to intense, not intense to the face though)
-Pinch her nipples.
-Handcuffs/blindfolds always god.


These are some good starting points, thanks. We've not known each other long, so I've been reluctant to do anything too extreme. I suppose the first thing I'll command her to do is tell me how far she's willing to go ;).

>command her to tell me how far she's willing to go
ehhhh I wouldn't do that, that's a little soft. If she's into domination, she wants you to just do it. If you ask, she's still in control. Just take steps and eventually she will say too much.


If she's 20, she's probably still working all that out. Start small, but instead of getting her permission for every little boundary, make her use her safeword. And talk about it outside the bedroom, too.
There are various books you should probably read to get into BDSM...Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns is a good starting point. Various erotica & how-to guides will help too.
The tough part for me was actually admitting I enjoyed hurting her and it turned me on. You need to do this because you enjoy it, too, not just to satisfy her. How do you feel about it all? It's not really something you try out like a new flavor of potato chip...more like an unspeakable hidden urge you're suddenly letting free.

I'm not into inflicting pain, but I do feel the urge to dominate. I'm definitely ok with being rough, and I could probably do spanking. What turns me on is the idea of her doing what I say... I've never really "degraded" any girl I've been with, but I've always wanted to c*m on a woman's face, etc.
As far as the pain is concerned... I'm not info that. In my mind that's a different genre than domination anyway. Oh and can anyone here provide suggestions on tying her up? I'm sure she would be down so I'm talking about the mechanics.


>command her to tell me how far she's willing to go
ehhhh I wouldn't do that, that's a little soft. If she's into domination, she wants you to just do it. If you ask, she's still in control. Just take steps and eventually she will say too much.

Very true, good point.








This is what I do with my girlfriend - light domination stuff.
-Pull hair
-Choke, moderately or intensely.
-Slap her ass, tits, face (moderate to intense, not intense to the face though)
-Pinch her nipples.
-Handcuffs/blindfolds always god.

I like these suggestions. Thanks anon

Just choke the bitch. Girls like it.


Very true, good point.
I like these suggestions. Thanks anon

You are quite welcome.
As for tying, a tight knot binding her wrists using a tie or preferably a better material is good enough - just be sure you have some positions planned out so her bound hands don't get in the way. Mood killer.


I'm not into inflicting pain, but I do feel the urge to dominate. I'm definitely ok with being rough, and I could probably do spanking. What turns me on is the idea of her doing what I say... I've never really "degraded" any girl I've been with, but I've always wanted to c*m on a woman's face, etc.
As far as the pain is concerned... I'm not info that. In my mind that's a different genre than domination anyway. Oh and can anyone here provide suggestions on tying her up? I'm sure she would be down so I'm talking about the mechanics.

You need to be really careful about tying people up...bad sh*t happens when they struggle themselves into a position in which they can't breathe, or if they cut off blood flow. I recommend picking up one of those under-the-bed restraint systems with wrist and ankle cuffs, my girl and I enjoy ours a lot. Using actual rope is for people who really know what they're doing with it.

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