My girlfriend of about five years broke up with me about two weeks ago, and I don't think that I did it right. We were out at dinner when she broke the news, and I wasn't very upset by it. I do enjoy her company, and the sex was nice, but realistically, I know there are billions of women in the world and she wasn't an especially unique catch, nothing that couldn't be easily achieved again with a little searching.
She was going on for about five minutes, apologizing mostly, and I politely waited for her to finish. As she completed her speech, I put some money on the table to pay for the meal, and was in the process of standing up to leave, when she seemed upset/surprised and asked me why I was leaving.
I didn't think I was at the time, but was I incorrect here? I always assumed after a break up in a public area, it was proper to leave, so that you don't drag it along and make for an awkward rest of the meal. The rest of the meal was uncomfortable, and she commented about how I was apparently in shock, and apologized several times.
After the meal was finally over, I went back to my apartment and started to think of my future dating options. The next problem I encountered though, is that she has been calling me several times to "check up" on me, and I'm not sure why. Is it polite to return these calls? I've picked up and talked to her when possible, but it's getting fairly annoying. I'm in the process of courting a new girlfriend, and I don't want to seem rude, but I'm tired of the phone calls.
What is the appropriate way to handle a break up when on the receiving end?
You're supposed to be sad, weirdo.
Tell her to let go and stop calling.
You're supposed to be sad, weirdo.
If she broke up with him and he's taking it in stride, don't turn him into one of us.
your ex just thought that her "immesne beauty and intelligence" would be greatly missed to such an extent it would depress you a lot.
she seems to think she does not crap sh*t, but gold. her calling isn't her checking up on you, it's her WANTING to hear that you are sad to acknowledge her self worth.
tell her to leave you alone and that you want nothing more of her. unless you do.
This is why aspies shouldn't date.
What the f**k?
You reacted perfectly, she was looking for attention.
This is funny.
By not caring about the breakup you're making her regret her decision and want to get back together. It's actually a really common strategy that most bitches use today when they get broken up with.
Here's what to do. Next time she calls, answer, talk for a bit then ask "You broke up with me, why do you keep calling me? I don't want to be friends. I'm moving on and seeing other women, anyway, I need to go, goodbye and take care".
You're welcome.
Don't call or communicate with exes. That is why they are exes.
She is 'checking up' on you because she has second thoughts.
If you want her to stop calling you, tell her you feel that she wasn't that great of a gf and you want to move on. Basically insult her so she wont call back.
my ex acted the same way. I think I may have hurt her feelings by acting so distant after it happened, she even said she felt "fooled" by me, and that I never had feelings for her. Untrue of course, but at the time I was just shocked and numbed by the whole thing. I was and still am extremely torn up over it, but I think I acted initially distant as a survival mechanism. I dont think she'll ever know how badly what she said hurt me, or how much it hurts to be without her. Feels bad man
Stop acting like an aspie. I cringe every time I read 'did I do it right?', 'what would you do?', so on. Use common sense to see what other people do.
That being said, your reaction isn't that rare so don't pride yourself. Seems like the girl had a bigger ego than you imagined. Good to see you move on.
You're a f**king a**hole.
Sometimes women want to feel that they are at least acknowledged, and by doing this you are basically telling her that she is a worthless piece of sh*t. Do her the basic human courtesy of seeming upset.
OP is a great man.
MY THREADS ARE DOING IRON MAN NUMBERS AND I DON'T CARE ANY MORE
This is why I cannot stand aspies. They are barely even human. Everything they say is from the perspective of someone looking in from the outside, as if they're a weird alien trapped inside of human skin.
"Did I do this right?"
"Is this the socially acceptable response?"
"What's the appropriate emotion to convey in this situation?"
These things come naturally to normal healthy human beings. You shouldn't even be in a relationship if you can't feel sad about losing it. You are subhuman trash.
You're a f**king a**hole.
Sometimes women want to feel that they are at least acknowledged, and by doing this you are basically telling her that she is a worthless piece of sh*t. Do her the basic human courtesy of seeming upset.
>implying all woman aren't worthless pieces of sh*t
OP is awesome, and did it gloriously right. Much more right than the fa**ots who say "I'LL ALWAYS LOVE YOU BAAAAAAWWWWWWWWW" after they break up.
Anyone who thinks OP owed her any "courtesy" after she broke up with him is f**king pathetic.
The only appropriate emotion is the one you're feeling, unless it's violent. If she really insists on talking about it, just tell her she was right to break up with you because you hadn't been feeling the relationship lately. Don't be mean about it though, because it was a 5 year relationship after all.
You're a f**king a**hole.
Sometimes women want to feel that they are at least acknowledged, and by doing this you are basically telling her that she is a worthless piece of sh*t. Do her the basic human courtesy of seeming upset.
What the f**k am I reading? She obviously didnt want to be acknowledged by this guy, cuz she broke up with him.
You did fine, she just wants attention.
What's the appropriate emotion to convey when being broken up with?
My girlfriend of about five years broke up with me about two weeks ago, and I don't think that I did it right. We were out at dinner when she broke the news, and I wasn't very upset by it. I do enjoy her company, and the sex was nice, but realistically, I know there are billions of women in the world and she wasn't an especially unique catch, nothing that couldn't be easily achieved again with a little searching.
She was going on for about five minutes, apologizing mostly, and I politely waited for her to finish. As she completed her speech, I put some money on the table to pay for the meal, and was in the process of standing up to leave, when she seemed upset/surprised and asked me why I was leaving.
I didn't think I was at the time, but was I incorrect here? I always assumed after a break up in a public area, it was proper to leave, so that you don't drag it along and make for an awkward rest of the meal. The rest of the meal was uncomfortable, and she commented about how I was apparently in shock, and apologized several times.
After the meal was finally over, I went back to my apartment and started to think of my future dating options. The next problem I encountered though, is that she has been calling me several times to "check up" on me, and I'm not sure why. Is it polite to return these calls? I've picked up and talked to her when possible, but it's getting fairly annoying. I'm in the process of courting a new girlfriend, and I don't want to seem rude, but I'm tired of the phone calls.
What is the appropriate way to handle a break up when on the receiving end?
You should have just walked off in the restaurant while she was still talking, and not paid. Don't answer the phone when she calls. If you feel the need to, answer it one last time and tell her calmly and without emotion that her calls are interrupting your time with your new girlfriend, and that they should stop of you will get a restraining order on her.
You owe her nothing, man. If the sh*t doesn't phase you, then act like it and have nothing to do with her.
I love watching people with asperger's in relationships, they don't put up with sh*t, and it's not even intentionally awesome.
I used to know this guy with asperger's who was dating this absolute bitch, and he wasn't really bothered by it, because he thought it was normal for women to act like this in a relationship. One day they got into an argument, well -they- didn't, she was just yelling at him while he stared with that same unchanging smile. She started shoving him, and I guess his instinct kicked in, and he just punches her. No adrenaline rush, not even an angry look, just clocks her and with that same creepy ass smile plastered across his face, and then helps her up.
You're a f**king a**hole.
Sometimes women want to feel that they are at least acknowledged, and by doing this you are basically telling her that she is a worthless piece of sh*t. Do her the basic human courtesy of seeming upset.
When a girl dumps you, you don't owe her respect. Treat people like they treat you, not how you want to be treated.
I love watching people with asperger's in relationships, they don't put up with sh*t, and it's not even intentionally awesome.
I used to know this guy with asperger's who was dating this absolute bitch, and he wasn't really bothered by it, because he thought it was normal for women to act like this in a relationship. One day they got into an argument, well -they- didn't, she was just yelling at him while he stared with that same unchanging smile. She started shoving him, and I guess his instinct kicked in, and he just punches her. No adrenaline rush, not even an angry look, just clocks her and with that same creepy ass smile plastered across his face, and then helps her up.
Hahaha that guy sounds awesome.
This is why I cannot stand aspies. They are barely even human. Everything they say is from the perspective of someone looking in from the outside, as if they're a weird alien trapped inside of human skin.
"Did I do this right?"
"Is this the socially acceptable response?"
"What's the appropriate emotion to convey in this situation?"
These things come naturally to normal healthy human beings. You shouldn't even be in a relationship if you can't feel sad about losing it. You are subhuman trash.
Obviously the relationship didn't matter nearly as much to the OP as it did to the girl.
What's the appropriate emotion to convey when being broken up with?
My girlfriend of about five years broke up with me about two weeks ago, and I don't think that I did it right. We were out at dinner when she broke the news, and I wasn't very upset by it. I do enjoy her company, and the sex was nice, but realistically, I know there are billions of women in the world and she wasn't an especially unique catch, nothing that couldn't be easily achieved again with a little searching.
She was going on for about five minutes, apologizing mostly, and I politely waited for her to finish. As she completed her speech, I put some money on the table to pay for the meal, and was in the process of standing up to leave, when she seemed upset/surprised and asked me why I was leaving.
I didn't think I was at the time, but was I incorrect here? I always assumed after a break up in a public area, it was proper to leave, so that you don't drag it along and make for an awkward rest of the meal. The rest of the meal was uncomfortable, and she commented about how I was apparently in shock, and apologized several times.
After the meal was finally over, I went back to my apartment and started to think of my future dating options. The next problem I encountered though, is that she has been calling me several times to "check up" on me, and I'm not sure why. Is it polite to return these calls? I've picked up and talked to her when possible, but it's getting fairly annoying. I'm in the process of courting a new girlfriend, and I don't want to seem rude, but I'm tired of the phone calls.
What is the appropriate way to handle a break up when on the receiving end?
OP, you sound like a psychopath (not crazy killer, just psychopathy.. i.e. no emotion).
Do you have any emotion at all?
weird out dude,i had the same exact reaction when my gf broke it off.iwas pretty meh and then she had the nerve to start weeping in front of me?...come on i was de f**ker bein dropped like it was hot...the mind boggles!
You weren't incorrect. Feel as you naturally do. Your ex is just a crazy bitch.
What's the appropriate emotion to convey when being broken up with?
My girlfriend of about five years broke up with me about two weeks ago, and I don't think that I did it right. We were out at dinner when she broke the news, and I wasn't very upset by it. I do enjoy her company, and the sex was nice, but realistically, I know there are billions of women in the world and she wasn't an especially unique catch, nothing that couldn't be easily achieved again with a little searching.
She was going on for about five minutes, apologizing mostly, and I politely waited for her to finish. As she completed her speech, I put some money on the table to pay for the meal, and was in the process of standing up to leave, when she seemed upset/surprised and asked me why I was leaving.
I didn't think I was at the time, but was I incorrect here? I always assumed after a break up in a public area, it was proper to leave, so that you don't drag it along and make for an awkward rest of the meal. The rest of the meal was uncomfortable, and she commented about how I was apparently in shock, and apologized several times.
After the meal was finally over, I went back to my apartment and started to think of my future dating options. The next problem I encountered though, is that she has been calling me several times to "check up" on me, and I'm not sure why. Is it polite to return these calls? I've picked up and talked to her when possible, but it's getting fairly annoying. I'm in the process of courting a new girlfriend, and I don't want to seem rude, but I'm tired of the phone calls.
What is the appropriate way to handle a break up when on the receiving end?
Move on. Ignore her existence. Show no bitterness, just accept that it's over and treat her with indifference. The way she's acting shows guilt, and you seem fine with moving on, so playing along with the sh*t only mean playing along with her game.
You should have just walked off in the restaurant while she was still talking, and not paid. Don't answer the phone when she calls. If you feel the need to, answer it one last time and tell her calmly and without emotion that her calls are interrupting your time with your new girlfriend, and that they should stop of you will get a restraining order on her.
You owe her nothing, man. If the sh*t doesn't phase you, then act like it and have nothing to do with her.
Do this, man. If you're so ice cold as to not give a f**k about her then why should you even pretend to give a f**k about her for her sake? F**k that bitch.
it sounds like she's having trouble and is masking it by "checking up" on you. what you did was appropriate. she just wants attention. but what do i know?
I love watching people with asperger's in relationships, they don't put up with sh*t, and it's not even intentionally awesome.
I used to know this guy with asperger's who was dating this absolute bitch, and he wasn't really bothered by it, because he thought it was normal for women to act like this in a relationship. One day they got into an argument, well -they- didn't, she was just yelling at him while he stared with that same unchanging smile. She started shoving him, and I guess his instinct kicked in, and he just punches her. No adrenaline rush, not even an angry look, just clocks her and with that same creepy ass smile plastered across his face, and then helps her up.
>just clocks her and with that same creepy ass smile plastered across his face, and then helps her up.
lol wat
just tell her the truth op,
she just isn't someone so unique that you can't find another with a little searching.
How is it that some weird bastard like this can get a girlfriend, and ANOTHER girlfriend two weeks later, and yet, I'm here, a guy who would be torn to shreds by any break up, is still desperately single and a virgin?
Do this, man. If you're so ice cold as to not give a f**k about her then why should you even pretend to give a f**k about her for her sake? F**k that bitch.
If you just dip out while she's doing her breakup speech and completely sever all communications, my guess is you wouldn't look ice cold, but rather extremely butthurt.
You reacted perfectly, she was looking for attention.
This is funny.
By not caring about the breakup you're making her regret her decision and want to get back together. It's actually a really common strategy that most bitches use today when they get broken up with.
Here's what to do. Next time she calls, answer, talk for a bit then ask "You broke up with me, why do you keep calling me? I don't want to be friends. I'm moving on and seeing other women, anyway, I need to go, goodbye and take care".
You're welcome.
>Here's what to do. Next time she calls, answer, talk for a bit then ask "You broke up with me, why do you keep calling me? I don't want to be friends. I'm moving on and seeing other women, anyway, I need to go, goodbye and take care".
Basically this.
MY THREADS ARE DOING IRON MAN NUMBERS AND I DON'T CARE ANY MORE
MY THREADS ARE DOING IRON MAN NUMBERS AND I DON'T CARE ANY MORE
haha I thought of this too
What I really want to know is why you wasted 5 years of your life with a girl who you don't give a f**k about.
How is it that some weird bastard like this can get a girlfriend, and ANOTHER girlfriend two weeks later, and yet, I'm here, a guy who would be torn to shreds by any break up, is still desperately single and a virgin?
You sound extremely clingy. That's a turn-off to girls.
How is it that some weird bastard like this can get a girlfriend, and ANOTHER girlfriend two weeks later, and yet, I'm here, a guy who would be torn to shreds by any break up, is still desperately single and a virgin?
Because he doesn't give a f**k, obviously.
What the f**k is wrong with you people? Really? You're pinning his reaction on Aspergers? SERIOUSLY?
Don't listen to these f**king stupid people OP, your reaction was wonderful. She obviously was looking for attention and unwarranted self-worth.
Basically, she was a wh**re and now she's second guessing herself because she now realizes that she won't get her source of self-satisfaction from you and feels insecure.
Everyone else, SHUT. THE. F**K. UP.
F**kin' tards.
What's the appropriate emotion to convey when being broken up with?
My girlfriend of about five years broke up with me about two weeks ago, and I don't think that I did it right. We were out at dinner when she broke the news, and I wasn't very upset by it. I do enjoy her company, and the sex was nice, but realistically, I know there are billions of women in the world and she wasn't an especially unique catch, nothing that couldn't be easily achieved again with a little searching.
She was going on for about five minutes, apologizing mostly, and I politely waited for her to finish. As she completed her speech, I put some money on the table to pay for the meal, and was in the process of standing up to leave, when she seemed upset/surprised and asked me why I was leaving.
I didn't think I was at the time, but was I incorrect here? I always assumed after a break up in a public area, it was proper to leave, so that you don't drag it along and make for an awkward rest of the meal. The rest of the meal was uncomfortable, and she commented about how I was apparently in shock, and apologized several times.
After the meal was finally over, I went back to my apartment and started to think of my future dating options. The next problem I encountered though, is that she has been calling me several times to "check up" on me, and I'm not sure why. Is it polite to return these calls? I've picked up and talked to her when possible, but it's getting fairly annoying. I'm in the process of courting a new girlfriend, and I don't want to seem rude, but I'm tired of the phone calls.
What is the appropriate way to handle a break up when on the receiving end?
I think you reacted fine OP, tbh unless you are going to be forced to see her a lot it doesnt matter how she feels about the way it ended, as she ended it.
However if you want to stay friends and sh*t maybe just say that you really did love her and will miss her....blah blah blah but that your glad it ended the way it did.
Also I would have left after someone broke up with me as well, probs a fairly normal response.
O and as were on anonymous she broke up with you therefore you can be a c**t to her if you wish ^.^
What the f**k is wrong with you people? Really? You're pinning his reaction on Aspergers? SERIOUSLY?
Don't listen to these f**king stupid people OP, your reaction was wonderful. She obviously was looking for attention and unwarranted self-worth.
Basically, she was a wh**re and now she's second guessing herself because she now realizes that she won't get her source of self-satisfaction from you and feels insecure.
Everyone else, SHUT. THE. F**K. UP.
F**kin' tards.
Word.
Keep on doing your sh*t, OP.
You reacted perfectly, she was looking for attention.
This is funny.
By not caring about the breakup you're making her regret her decision and want to get back together. It's actually a really common strategy that most bitches use today when they get broken up with.
Here's what to do. Next time she calls, answer, talk for a bit then ask "You broke up with me, why do you keep calling me? I don't want to be friends. I'm moving on and seeing other women, anyway, I need to go, goodbye and take care".
You're welcome.
You reacted perfectly, she was looking for attention.
This is funny.
By not caring about the breakup you're making her regret her decision and want to get back together. It's actually a really common strategy that most bitches use today when they get broken up with.
Here's what to do. Next time she calls, answer, talk for a bit then ask "You broke up with me, why do you keep calling me? I don't want to be friends. I'm moving on and seeing other women, anyway, I need to go, goodbye and take care".
You're welcome.
This. It's Triforce-grade Wisdom. A thousand times; this.
How is it that some weird bastard like this can get a girlfriend, and ANOTHER girlfriend two weeks later, and yet, I'm here, a guy who would be torn to shreds by any break up, is still desperately single and a virgin?
Because you are one big pu**y
What I really want to know is why you wasted 5 years of your life with a girl who you don't give a f**k about.
>why you wasted 5 years of your life
He probably liked the familiarity of being in one relationship with someone he had grown accustomed to. If he does have some form of autism, I really doubt he's going to ever love anyone. Just varying degrees of familiarity.
Asperger's has never been so awesome before.
>why you wasted 5 years of your life
He probably liked the familiarity of being in one relationship with someone he had grown accustomed to. If he does have some form of autism, I really doubt he's going to ever love anyone. Just varying degrees of familiarity.
Now that I read about this sh*t somewhere, seems to be he just likes being in a relationship. Don't really matter who with. If I was you, OP, i'd just stay single. Relationships suck dick when you don't really care about her.
Little known fact: Every single playboy/womanizer in the world is autistic.
The healthy reaction after being left by the perfected celestial beings known as Females, is one of severe distress and horror.
i want aspergers wat do D:
Little known fact: Every single playboy/womanizer in the world is autistic.
The healthy reaction after being left by the perfected celestial beings known as Females, is one of severe distress and horror.
White Knight Assburger and/or Feminazi detected.
OP
YOU ARE AWESOME. EVERYONE WHO IS COMPLAINING IS EITHER A VIRGIN NECKBEARD FA**OT, OR A WOMAN IN DISGUISE.
This is the absolute best way to react. Good on you, OP.
Little known fact: Every single playboy/womanizer in the world is autistic.
The healthy reaction after being left by the perfected celestial beings known as Females, is one of severe distress and horror.
Stop putting the pu**y on a pedestal.
If my girlfriend breaks up with me, I'm not going to cry or anything. I'd just cut her out of my life because I probably WOULD be sad. But there's no reason I should mope around and be unable to get over it.
You're supposed to be sad, weirdo.
This is why aspies shouldn't date.
What the f**k?
You're a f**king a**hole.
Sometimes women want to feel that they are at least acknowledged, and by doing this you are basically telling her that she is a worthless piece of sh*t. Do her the basic human courtesy of seeming upset.
This is why I cannot stand aspies. They are barely even human. Everything they say is from the perspective of someone looking in from the outside, as if they're a weird alien trapped inside of human skin.
"Did I do this right?"
"Is this the socially acceptable response?"
"What's the appropriate emotion to convey in this situation?"
These things come naturally to normal healthy human beings. You shouldn't even be in a relationship if you can't feel sad about losing it. You are subhuman trash.
OP, you sound like a psychopath (not crazy killer, just psychopathy.. i.e. no emotion).
Do you have any emotion at all?
Guy gets dumped with girl and instead of bawww'ing like a cry baby, moves on with his life. You know, the intelligent course of action. And what does he get from this board?
ASPIEASPIEHE'SASOCIALLYAWKWARDASPIE
IHATEASPIES
Despite,
>5 Year Relationship
>Moving On with New Dates
For f**ks sake, if anything, his actions show an advanced level of confidence and social grace, not a lack of them.
Concentrating on a woman who broke up with you is not healthy. Neither is obsessing over what you might've done wrong or how you might've changed it. Just take the lessons from that encounter and move on.
One of his few mistakes was asking for opinions from anonymous.
For OP, sadness is the reasonable response, acceptance is the appropriate one, so no problems for you there. Also, I would've left the meal after the news.
But good on you OP, good on you.
Stop putting the pu**y on a pedestal.
I am pretty sure he's being sarcastic.
ITT: Trying to hard to be manly.
What's the appropriate emotion to convey when being broken up with?
My girlfriend of about five years broke up with me about two weeks ago, and I don't think that I did it right. We were out at dinner when she broke the news, and I wasn't very upset by it. I do enjoy her company, and the sex was nice, but realistically, I know there are billions of women in the world and she wasn't an especially unique catch, nothing that couldn't be easily achieved again with a little searching.
She was going on for about five minutes, apologizing mostly, and I politely waited for her to finish. As she completed her speech, I put some money on the table to pay for the meal, and was in the process of standing up to leave, when she seemed upset/surprised and asked me why I was leaving.
I didn't think I was at the time, but was I incorrect here? I always assumed after a break up in a public area, it was proper to leave, so that you don't drag it along and make for an awkward rest of the meal. The rest of the meal was uncomfortable, and she commented about how I was apparently in shock, and apologized several times.
After the meal was finally over, I went back to my apartment and started to think of my future dating options. The next problem I encountered though, is that she has been calling me several times to "check up" on me, and I'm not sure why. Is it polite to return these calls? I've picked up and talked to her when possible, but it's getting fairly annoying. I'm in the process of courting a new girlfriend, and I don't want to seem rude, but I'm tired of the phone calls.
What is the appropriate way to handle a break up when on the receiving end?
>I know there are billions of women in the world and she wasn't an especially unique catch, nothing that couldn't be easily achieved again with a little searching.
F**king amen.
My ex broke up with me through a text while I was at the movies with some friends. I briefly exited the theater to call her and ask why. She didn't really have a reason. I went back in enjoyed the rest of the movie. I remember making a comment to my friends because I felt it was the right thing when you've been dumped. Other than that it just ended and I never talked to her again.
OP, you sound like a psychopath (not crazy killer, just psychopathy.. i.e. no emotion).
Do you have any emotion at all?
sociopath, bro.
IGNORE THE ASPIES IN THIS THREAD.
The right thing to do would be to understand that she is insecure after a breakup. If you have no hard feelings towards her THERE IS NO REASON TO GET REVENGE.
The polite thing to do would therefore be to comfort her and say something to the effect of, " we had great run, you meant a lot to me, I'm sure we have our differences, you'll find an awesome match, take care".
AGAIN, THERE IS NO REASON TO GET REVENGE, YOU DON'T GET ANYTHING OUT OF IT.
If she starts stalkery calling you, just ignore it.
You reacted perfectly, she was looking for attention.
This is funny.
By not caring about the breakup you're making her regret her decision and want to get back together. It's actually a really common strategy that most bitches use today when they get broken up with.
Here's what to do. Next time she calls, answer, talk for a bit then ask "You broke up with me, why do you keep calling me? I don't want to be friends. I'm moving on and seeing other women, anyway, I need to go, goodbye and take care".
You're welcome.
I support this wholeheartedly
I support this wholeheartedly
What's the point of being some kind of selfish assburgers a**hole? She didn't do anything wrong to the OP, she just thought they weren't a good match and is a little bit insecure about herself. Give her some self confidence AND SHE WILL STOP CALLING. That was OP's goal, right?
Great satisfaction
OP desrves a huge brofist. You won the game
IGNORE THE ASPIES IN THIS THREAD.
The right thing to do would be to understand that she is insecure after a breakup. If you have no hard feelings towards her THERE IS NO REASON TO GET REVENGE.
The polite thing to do would therefore be to comfort her and say something to the effect of, " we had great run, you meant a lot to me, I'm sure we have our differences, you'll find an awesome match, take care".
AGAIN, THERE IS NO REASON TO GET REVENGE, YOU DON'T GET ANYTHING OUT OF IT.
If she starts stalkery calling you, just ignore it.
No reason for revenge? What about the delicious taste?
No reason for revenge? What about the delicious taste?
what is this i don't even.
grow the f**k up.
OP is in denial and insecure. OP didn't describe why she's leaving him (insecure), and pretending it's not causing him any anguish
You reacted perfectly, she was looking for attention.
This is funny.
By not caring about the breakup you're making her regret her decision and want to get back together. It's actually a really common strategy that most bitches use today when they get broken up with.
Here's what to do. Next time she calls, answer, talk for a bit then ask "You broke up with me, why do you keep calling me? I don't want to be friends. I'm moving on and seeing other women, anyway, I need to go, goodbye and take care".
You're welcome.
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Here's what to do. Next time she calls, answer, talk for a bit then ask "You broke up with me, why do you keep calling me? I don't want to be friends. I'm moving on and seeing other women, anyway, I need to go, goodbye and take care".
OP, that, pretty much. don't listen to anyone bashing on you for being autistic or having aspergers or whatever. You handled the situation with grace and were polite, and that is the completely correct response.
What's the appropriate emotion to convey when being broken up with?
My girlfriend of about five years broke up with me about two weeks ago, and I don't think that I did it right. We were out at dinner when she broke the news, and I wasn't very upset by it. I do enjoy her company, and the sex was nice, but realistically, I know there are billions of women in the world and she wasn't an especially unique catch, nothing that couldn't be easily achieved again with a little searching.
She was going on for about five minutes, apologizing mostly, and I politely waited for her to finish. As she completed her speech, I put some money on the table to pay for the meal, and was in the process of standing up to leave, when she seemed upset/surprised and asked me why I was leaving.
I didn't think I was at the time, but was I incorrect here? I always assumed after a break up in a public area, it was proper to leave, so that you don't drag it along and make for an awkward rest of the meal. The rest of the meal was uncomfortable, and she commented about how I was apparently in shock, and apologized several times.
After the meal was finally over, I went back to my apartment and started to think of my future dating options. The next problem I encountered though, is that she has been calling me several times to "check up" on me, and I'm not sure why. Is it polite to return these calls? I've picked up and talked to her when possible, but it's getting fairly annoying. I'm in the process of courting a new girlfriend, and I don't want to seem rude, but I'm tired of the phone calls.
What is the appropriate way to handle a break up when on the receiving end?
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What's the appropriate emotion to convey when being broken up with?
My girlfriend of about five years broke up with me about two weeks ago, and I don't think that I did it right. We were out at dinner when she broke the news, and I wasn't very upset by it. I do enjoy her company, and the sex was nice, but realistically, I know there are billions of women in the world and she wasn't an especially unique catch, nothing that couldn't be easily achieved again with a little searching.
She was going on for about five minutes, apologizing mostly, and I politely waited for her to finish. As she completed her speech, I put some money on the table to pay for the meal, and was in the process of standing up to leave, when she seemed upset/surprised and asked me why I was leaving.
I didn't think I was at the time, but was I incorrect here? I always assumed after a break up in a public area, it was proper to leave, so that you don't drag it along and make for an awkward rest of the meal. The rest of the meal was uncomfortable, and she commented about how I was apparently in shock, and apologized several times.
After the meal was finally over, I went back to my apartment and started to think of my future dating options. The next problem I encountered though, is that she has been calling me several times to "check up" on me, and I'm not sure why. Is it polite to return these calls? I've picked up and talked to her when possible, but it's getting fairly annoying. I'm in the process of courting a new girlfriend, and I don't want to seem rude, but I'm tired of the phone calls.
What is the appropriate way to handle a break up when on the receiving end?
The perfect emotion for the situation you speak of is the following: derp
OP is in denial and insecure. OP didn't describe why she's leaving him (insecure), and pretending it's not causing him any anguish
If my gf broke up with me I'd do the same thing. Just cut her out of my life and walk away.
Surely it's more insecure to get all emo and anxious and worried about how worthless you must be etc?
>Being clingy like a little bitch
omg aspie
>Being a well adjusted and rational man
omg aspie
OP is mister smooth. Altho he's a fa**ot for asking anonymous what's appropriate.
Look, you don't need to dismiss her completely.
I'm not suggesting you act contrary to your obviously very poised personality, but you've been together too long at a level of moderate but not electrifying enjoyment just to throw it all away. (I'm imagining from what you've said that you both felt decently happy but that she might have hoped for a little more spark or direction in this coupling. The kind of thing the kids on here would love to decry as silly or petty, but is perfectly fair after the years creep in and an earlier impulse becomes a life choice.)
Well, you can still share company, and it'll be enhanced for the seperation, believe me. Depending on her talents, she might prove a useful contact, and it's pretty harmful to go cutting people off in today's massively connected world, anyway. So put everything you have between each other on the life-support for some time, but don't kill it. Arrange to meet and talk things over at some point in the safely-removed future- give her that much gratification- but stress how much you need your time alone at this point. Appeal to the emotions you don't have, but that she clearly expects you to, if that helps. If she thinks she's hurting you, she might back off.
Anyway, that's what I'd do. A nice enough mix of diplomacy and personal gain which I'm sure you can pull off quite easily, my emotionally-grounded anon.
My gf of about that long f**king destroyed me when we broke up.. but maybe she meant more to me than yours did to you.
You are a true gentleman and brother.
Carry on good sir.
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